Thinking about the past :( ROCD

My boyfriend’s mom heard me speaking during my therapy session one time (long time ago), she stayed in our house for a while, we used to live with my bf’s sister and her gf and she was very close to me, so she told me that my bf’s mom was telling her that she heard my conversation with my therapist and that I was speaking with another guy, she said that because in that session I told my therapist that I was confused because a friend of my brother was texting me and I was afraid that maybe I like him or something, I always spoke to him in a friendly way and then I cut the communication, but I remember saying in that session that I didn’t know if I like him and that it was attractive. The thing is that I’m afraid that she will tell this to my bf, she never spoke to me about it and never told my bf but I’m afraid that she will tell him now, also I have the thought that she didn’t accuse me because she knows that my bf cheated on me or something like that. I just don’t understand why she never told my bf, I think is weird and maybe she didn’t tell him because my bf did something bad in the past and she knows :(

Gabbi_29

Date posted: 2y

I don't know why she didn't tell my boyfriend what she heard, I think she didn't tell him because she knows my boyfriend did something bad.

Lindsay Marie

Date posted: 2y

Honestly gf. I think she might’ve told him and maybe he just didn’t react because he trusts you. If you’re scared he would find out, tell him yourself, in a way that wouldn’t hurt his feelings. Communication is key. You’ve got this. There’s no reason to overthink it and stress yourself out. Tell your partner and work through it together:) you don’t even have to exactly tell him what was said yk

Gabbi_29

Date posted: 2y

@Lindsay Marie So you don’t think is weird if she didn’t tell him anything about it?

Lindsay Marie

Date posted: 2y

@Gabbi_29 Maybe a little bit. But that’s why you talk to him about it. See if he reacts because I’m sure if he did do something bad she told him. Also, if he did do something wrong I don’t think that she would know. Yk what I mean?

Gabbi_29

Date posted: 2y

@Lindsay Marie What do you mean by see if reacts because you’re sure if he did do something bad she told him? Sorry my english is not perfect :(

Lindsay Marie

Date posted: 2y

Or maybe she heard more of the convo than you think and she just understands how you feel and what you’re going through. I’ve talked to my mom about it and she told me that a lot of people suffer with it. Along with my boyfriends sister we also had a conversation about it. Although a lot of people don’t really know what it is, there’s no reason to feel shameful because of it. I talked to my boyfriend about my ROCD about my ex and he responded perfectly fine. You’ve got it

Gabbi_29

Date posted: 2y

@Lindsay Marie Yes, you’re right, thank you for answer me I really appreciate!

Gabbi_29

Date posted: 2y

@Lindsay Marie I actually told him one time that I believe that she heard one of my session with my therapist and he said that she didn’t tell him anything about it

Lindsay Marie

Date posted: 2y

@Gabbi_29 She probably understood then. Why was she listening to ur therapy sesh though?

Gabbi_29

Date posted: 2y

@Lindsay Marie Because she was on the other room next to me, my door was closed and I thought that she couldn’t hear anything but then I realized that you can hear from the other room :(

Lindsay Marie

Date posted: 2y

@Gabbi_29 Ohhhhh, I see. I think if it was that long ago you’re completely fine. But if it still bugs you I’d let him know so he doesn’t hear a flipped story from someone else. But if you guys decided to move in together, that’s a big step and shows that you really love and trust one another yk. I think I’m the back of your head you just feel guilty about it, which makes you question if he’s guilty for anything.

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