Soocd

Yesterday was a bit of a more difficult day… I was online a lot. Today I’m going to try to not get on this app or on Reddit/quora… I wanted to ask this to the straight females in this group struggling with soocd. How does it make you feel when someone says that “most woman are attracted to other woman” I’ve also seen “all woman are bisexual”? For me, I have a hard time with this. I can recognize that a woman is pretty. But I can’t recognize if I want to kiss her/ be with her. So in a way this brings me relief, but the relief comes with a “but that means you really do want to be with a woman and your just hiding it” I’d like to have some other thoughts on this!

is.a.bell.ri...

Date posted: 1y

Hi! I have struggled a lot with the same questions over the years, and I find what works for me is: 1)remembering not to be judgmental with myself, that no matter what I feel it is valid, and neither good nor bad, 2) remembering that I am not my thoughts, and 3) That it’s not black and white, I can be straight and also find women attractive. And if I do like a woman, I don’t have to act on it, or in any way that makes me uncomfortable. You are not wrong for asking yourself these questions. It’s dwelling on them or dreading the answer that will be the biggest detriment to your happiness. Sending you peace and comfort on your journey!

Anonymousesti

Date posted: 1y

What do you mean by "you can't recognize". Because from what your saying its pretty clear that you're straigt and that this is SOOCD. But always repond to these thoughts with " maybe, maybe not".

ryry

Date posted: 1y

@Anonymousesti What I mean by “can’t recognize” is that I can’t differentiate between seeing someone pretty and being sexually/romantically attracted to them. I also struggle with literally just seeing a female and thinking about if I want to be with them just because I noticed them. Hope this clarifies

Anonymousesti

Date posted: 1y

@ryry - Yes, I feel you. But as I said before "maybe yes, maybe not". Im going throught the same thing + feeling like the attraction to women is genuine and that my attraction to guys is forced. You're not alone.

Anonymousesti

Date posted: 23w

SOOCD

Just tired af... Anyone else feels like everything is a lie all the time and there is no "before the OCD I was boy crazy" just the OCD since forever... or denial because of that aspect? Really struggeling with the physical aspect of SOOCD : looking at a women's body and really feeling something and getting turned on and looking at a man's and not feeling anything... I just dont understand! I asked my friends and many of them said they dont feel anything looking at a man's body as well (they're straight) but also looking at a women's doesnt feel like much. I just dont understand ughhhh

Sexual Orientation OCD

Pogoshow

Date posted: 12w

SOOCD

I’ve been dealing with SOOCD for over a year now, and I have been having a very hard day today. I feel like I just need someone to talk too, my whole life I’ve always had girl crushes and always wanted to be romantic with women . Ever since I posted this picture on instagram and one person said I looked “zesty” in it , which is when I started obsessing about being gay . I feel like I put so much meaning to these thoughts where now I’m always checking how I feeling around men. I had a really bad porn addiction for a long time and bad anxiety which fucked up my sex drive. I feel like I doubt if I’m attracted to women when I know I am , but the doubt is so overbearing where I start to believe it . I never was interested in men sexually, and my ocd makes me feel like I like the thoughts even though I feel no pleasure out of it. I feel like I lost who I am as a person . It feels like I don’t even know what my sexuality is and it’s really upsetting to me . I meant this girl the other day and she is the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met and I just feel like ocd is getting in the way😭😭😭 please any advice or comments

polish_germa...

Date posted: 11w

I’m scared I might be more sexually attracted to women and more romantically to men

Hi everyone, I’ve been really anxious lately, and I just need to get this out of my head. Someone recently told me that maybe I’m bisexual — that I might be more sexually attracted to women, but more romantically attracted to men. That bisexuality is not 50/50. And ever since I heard that, I’ve been spiraling. The thing is: I don’t want this to be true. It scares me. I don’t feel romantic attraction to women, I’ve never wanted to be in a relationship with one. But yes, I get aroused by fantasies involving women — and that makes me feel broken or like I’ve been lying to myself. I love my boyfriend deeply, I don’t want to lose him. I want to feel fully connected to him, physically and emotionally. But now I’m stuck in this obsessive loop of questioning: “What if I’m just in denial?” “What if I’m not really straight?” “What if this is why my libido is low?” It’s exhausting, and I don’t know if this is OCD, anxiety, or if something is fundamentally wrong. Has anyone else felt this split — romantic feelings for one gender, sexual feelings for another? I feel so alone and scared. Thanks for listening.

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