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There's no way for anyone to be 100% sure of whether sexuality is or isn't fluid, and yet that isn't an issue for people without OCD. I suggest that you do imaginary exposure for this specific obsession. Write a script describing your fear and read it, read "coming out stories", watch "Break back mountain", etc, and work on NOT seeking any type of reassurance by researching the topic and make sure to identify and stop rituals (either physical or mental) and don't avoid anxiety triggers. You can do this!
Orientation is fluid but it is not as fluid as people say it is and please dont Google such things its gonna trigger your hocd and act as obsessive illogical questions. I am telling you by personal experience , just because of hocd i have actually researched a lot about sexual orientation ?? which actually was compulsion but it didn't helped me and it won't help you too. Don't get triggered by what im saying this happens to everyone who suffers hocd
It can be fluid, but not in a way we think. It’s not like you wake up the next day and all of a sudden, you like the same sex. I feel like there’s more to it and we don’t understand because maybe our sexuality isn’t as fluid or “fraudulent” as we’re making it to be (and if one day, it comes to that, it’s perfectly okay).
People who are attracted to more than one gender have a more fluid sexuality but it's not fluid in the way of "I'm going to sleep straight and I'm gonna wake up gay"
@shiv00 thank you so much, your answer helped me to calm down a bit
I’m really freaking out right now. I keep reading things. I keep getting scared and panicking myself. I’m sweating like crazy right now. Idk if I’m actually lesbian or it’s ocd. I keep reading things and people answer with there’s no such this as hocd and stuff. And how someone had ocd and thought they were bi but officially said they were gay. I’m so scared rn.
Hey guys, im new to the community my name is haidar. So i been attracted to this boy in my class for the past month. My minds been so stressed out because im not 100% certain about my sexuality. Sometimes i kind of like girls but im mostly towards men. I fear that im gonna lead this boy on and im not even 100% of my sexuality. Does anybody else relate?
First off it was hocd now I'm having doubts if I'm bisexual or not. I've done so much googling trying to find out what I am and so far I've been able to label that I'm Aesthetically attracted to everyone which has nothing to do with sexuality and is normal but sexually I've only been interested in women. My sexual and romantic attractions are interlocked meaning I can't have one without an other. I know I shouldn't be doing so much compulsions but there is one doubt that's glued to my head and it's making me feel like I'm attracted to feminine men (twinks, femboys) even during hocd this was the case and what caused it to begin with. I can't figure it out no matter how much I research. Sexually it would be uncomfortable and without the feminine makeup on I wouldn't be aesthetically attracted. This is all confusing to me because I always saw myself as straight and found interest in just women. I just want these doubts to go so I'm able to have a girlfriend (broke up with mine few months back) I want to be able to be doubt free and feel secure in my own identity. It's getting to the point where I feel like I need to experiment just to find an answer even though I know I would be uncomfortable the fact I'm no longer disgusted fuels this theme too:(. I really need answers I feel like I'm close but then the anxiety comes back
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