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There's no way for anyone to be 100% sure of whether sexuality is or isn't fluid, and yet that isn't an issue for people without OCD. I suggest that you do imaginary exposure for this specific obsession. Write a script describing your fear and read it, read "coming out stories", watch "Break back mountain", etc, and work on NOT seeking any type of reassurance by researching the topic and make sure to identify and stop rituals (either physical or mental) and don't avoid anxiety triggers. You can do this!
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Orientation is fluid but it is not as fluid as people say it is and please dont Google such things its gonna trigger your hocd and act as obsessive illogical questions. I am telling you by personal experience , just because of hocd i have actually researched a lot about sexual orientation ?? which actually was compulsion but it didn't helped me and it won't help you too. Don't get triggered by what im saying this happens to everyone who suffers hocd
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It can be fluid, but not in a way we think. It’s not like you wake up the next day and all of a sudden, you like the same sex. I feel like there’s more to it and we don’t understand because maybe our sexuality isn’t as fluid or “fraudulent” as we’re making it to be (and if one day, it comes to that, it’s perfectly okay).
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People who are attracted to more than one gender have a more fluid sexuality but it's not fluid in the way of "I'm going to sleep straight and I'm gonna wake up gay"
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@shiv00 thank you so much, your answer helped me to calm down a bit
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How can you tell if it’s SOOCD, being in denial or sexual orientation fluid change? I really really hope it’s just SOOCD but I suffer so much from the loss of attraction to opposite gender and severe‘false’ attraction to same gender. It makes me feel sick and want to cry every time I have false attractions. I find it so difficult I feel my entire life has flipped and been destroyed.
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I really need help understanding what I’m going through. For a long time now, I’ve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental ‘pull’ toward certain women — it’s not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I can’t explain — sometimes I think it’s just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: “You felt something, so you must be gay,” or “You’re hiding something.” I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they don’t feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself — I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didn’t. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I don’t want to lie to myself or live in denial, but I’m exhausted. It feels like I’m being mentally forced to feel something that isn’t mine. I’m 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? I’m so scared that I’ll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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I have a lot of trouble with my sexuality. I’ve been trying to figure out my sexuality for years. I’ve dated a man, and I wasn’t really into the whole time. And since then I’ve thought that maybe I’m a lesbian because I’m attracted to women, which I know for sure. But then my brain spirals, I constantly think back ti memories with my ex, how I felt with him, I check how it makes me feel. I often google to see if other lesbians have felt similar, I ask ChatGpt over and over again. I feel like I have to be 100% certain or that im faking for attention, or thst I’ll end up with a man. I guess im wondering has anyone else felt like this ? What’s been your experience how do you manage it?
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