There is a person whom I like (few momths ago) suddenly i felt sudden fear i am not into him and I liked this other boy and i wake up everyday woth a rush of fear inside of me i can’t know what’s true is it ocd or is me not liking the boy 100% but i really feel he is a good person wbut once i saw another boy i said this is good better looking more rich bla bla and then the whole fear spiraled again
https://youtu.be/xoSlOnUuw-U?feature=shared Watch this. The white bear doesn't need to be used an replaced with anything. I taught one of my students who has general anxiety disorder this trick and now she's getting it tattooed on her because it helped so much. That's mental to me but each to their own. My example: I told her to think of a pink giraffe because that's her favourite animal and colour. I told her to do this for 2 minutes and it can be doing whatever it wants. Once those 2 minutes were up, I told her to not think about it for the next 2. She failed to do that for more than 5 seconds at a time. Next I told her to think about a green monkey for 2 minutes, like she did with the pink giraffe. At the end I asked if she thought about the giraffe at all in those 2 minutes and she didn't once. Basically it highlights how you think. You can't stop thinking about stuff by wishing it away, you accept its been there and divert your attention. Theres an old saying, we a have 2 wolves fighting inside us, one good(ego systonic) and one bad(ego dystonic). Which one wins? The one you feed. Basically diverting your attention and feeding something else your time. Sometimes we don't even have an obvious competing wolf for something naturally, so create one (a beneficial distraction, doesn't even have to be directirelated to the bad wolf). Hope you find this helpful
@Invalid Is it ok to feel like i suddenly lost all feeling like J likee the other person that i want to keep talking about him as if i want to neutralize the idea of me not liking him? I keep stalking him idk is it ok to like someone else while i just liked this person i am bad personv
I don’t even know if i like him or not
Do you know how to do exposure therapy for this?
@Invalid No how??
@Lod23 I don’t know what I feel anymore I accept the fact that maybe he isn’t the one but i don’t know wether i stopped liking him or not i really feel stuck..
Sit with the feeling and accept you may or may not like both. When it makes you feel anxious, do something you like and do grounding exercises to keep yourself present. Ruminating is a pain. It's an awful compulsion as it's hard to tell what's your thoughts or what's the ocd. Thing is they're all yours but you give the ones you don't like (ego dystonic) importance by trying to figure the random automatic thoughts out. Your fight or flight system will see it as a threat and then be trained to fight them every time they pop in your head, causing ocd in the first place. There's an exercise you should try, I'll get it for you
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@Invalid Thanks for the help
You can like multiple people. It's biology. Animals have multiple mates etc. But we evolved separately to animals. We can control our actions, not our thoughts, only refocus them
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