Can't confide

Yeah, especially when not even others with OCD or even your therapist understands your specific struggles

@Anonymous - I agree. My therapist doesn’t even specialize in OCD. :(

@mxgicalmoon That's too bad. :( Not to get too preachy, but I'd take the things they say with a grain of salt since they don't specialize. And if possible, you may want to get an OCD therapist, even if it's not with NOCD. The International OCD Foundation (IOCDF) website has a local therapist search option. But, as far as what we are talking about people understanding or not, getting an OCD therapist is sort of besides the point, if that makes sense.

@mxgicalmoon Cool! Good luck with your journey. Have you got another therapist lined up yet? And it's nice to hear when a therapist will admit that they can't fix the situation on their own. :)

I personally don't know what's really wrong with my situation. Is it others or is it me why I don't feel heard? But I feel like whenever I talk to people they don't listen and immediately start telling me their opinions, and I end up feeling like I am listening more than being listened to. But who knows how I would feel if I met someone like me, or if I had people who would simply listen to my issues? That hasn't happened yet.

@Anonymous I think it can be hard for people to not try to fix the situation instead of just listening and validating how you’re feeling. Maybe if you tell them that you don’t feel heard when they try to immediately tell you their opinions then they would react in a more validating and helpful way?

@spookycupcake Idk. I feel like I've made that clear enough. I don't always mention it, but I bring it up a decent chunk of the time and I would think situation-wise it would be clear. But even when I bring it up, I can remember times when they continued to try to explain it to me/prove their point. And I know they think that what they're saying is trying to be comforting, but logically it just ends up hurting/making me feel unheard. I think part of the problem could be that it is a religious fear, and sometimes people just don't listen so well about that stuff...

@Anonymous Oh, I see. Yeah they probably don’t fully understand it. I’m sorry you’re going through that, sometimes people don’t really understand unless they have experienced it it seems like. That sounds really frustrating that they still aren’t reacting in a helpful way even after you’ve made that clear

@spookycupcake It does seem like that sometimes. I'd settle for some sympathy. But people play up having people to actually relate with, and it makes me feel bad for not hearing of anyone whose gone through what I have, not in a close enough way that they would understand what it's like anyway. It's frustrating and confusing because I don't know where the problem is, maybe it's me, or maybe I'm just too passive about stuff

@spookycupcake I'm not even sure if talking to people is what I need either, or if it just won't help...

@Anonymous That makes sense. Obsessions can be so specific so I see how it would be hard to find someone to relate to sometimes. But that doesn’t mean you’re the only one

@Anonymous Have you done ERP with a therapist? I haven’t but I’m trying to get on that path

@spookycupcake Yes I have, and I have been having troubles with it for the past year. Also ruminating about it a lot. This is something that is near the top of my values, even if it shouldn't be. Glad to hear that you're doing what you can do. Good luck with that :)

@Anonymous Thanks! I hope it gets easier for you, I know it’s a pretty difficult type of treatment

@spookycupcake Thanks. Yeah it's pretty difficult to say the least tbh

@spookycupcake I hope you are able to do well with it as well

Yeah, idk, it seems like nobody knows, and it seems like they don't really care to listen. They say they do, but then when I talk they always seem to try to point out flaws in my thoughts