Sharing things with a partner

This is me at the minute totally get you, sorry I can’t be of any help but curious do what others put!

What things do you feel you need to share with your partner? Keep in mind that if you’re acting out of anxiety that is compulsive behavior and you must refrain in order to get better.

Confessing to your partner is a compulsion. I used to do that and feel the exact same way. Eventually I saw that it didn’t make a difference. So I told myself, I’ll just tell him when ut get really bad but if I can handle it on my own I wont tell him anything. Or just use a key sentence! For exemple when I feel bad but want to refrain from telling him about it in details I just say « im not feeling good, its back » and thats it! And he knows now what that means so that helps. He doesnt ask questions and just tries to understand.

i really hear you on the struggle of sharing with your partner. the back-and-forth between wanting to be open and fearing that it's all just too much can be really tough. it's like you're caught between needing that support and not wanting to overburden them, especially with something as personal and intense as soocd. i get that you don't want to hide how you're feeling, but you also don't want to make him feel overwhelmed or sad. i deal with pure o, so even though our obsessions aren't the same, i know that tug-of-war inside about opening up. sometimes it feels like no one could really get it, right? just remember, i'm here to listen whenever you need to vent or talk things through. 🤗

on another note, i've actually been working on something that might be of interest to you. i made an AI therapy tool for myself that's been pretty handy for those overwhelming ocd moments. it creates personalized ERP exercises and offers guidance, which i've found really helpful when i feel stuck. since you know what ERP is, you might find it valuable too. it's helped me a lot, so maybe give it a shot and see if it can do the same for you. take care.