Anonymous
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- 1y
No one understands my feelings
Nobody really gets how I feel, no matter how hard I try to explain it. I feel so lonely.
HarryPotter26HarryPotter26
- Date posted
- 1y
That is so so painful I’m so sorry 😞 If you would to post here I have severe existential ocd myself and also recently completed my masters in social work, I may be able to understand. Ofc only if that would be helpful to you😇 Sending hope ❤️
Erin PErin P
- Date posted
- 1y
You could try writing out how you feel here - some people may be able to relate. Sorry you feel so alone.
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 1y
I've tried that. Some people have had similar obsessions, but nothing like what I'm going through
Erin PErin P
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- 1y
@Anonymous I’m sorry you haven’t found someone who can fully relate.
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 1y
When you open up to people, you'll get better at helping them understand how you feel, even if they can't relate. It's better to improve how we present ourselves to others rather than believe that no one can understand. It's not true that they can't understand. People are smart, they can learn about you from listening and commiserate with you even if they don't have direct experience with what you're experiencing. As a matter of fact, they'll grow to trust you with personal information because you'll also put in an effort to understand them, even if you can't relate. The most important thing we can do is validate other people's experiences in life, even if we've never been through it. It should be a reciprocal process. Try not to be discouraged just because no one seems to understand. Eventually, you'll meet people that can relate to you because it's easier to understand others as we evolve and grow older, but the only way to find people that can relate and validate is to continue being open and communicative in a healthy way. You'll learn how to be more concise when describing your feelings because new phrases and words will help you share your emotional life. For example, today I was able to use new OCD terminology, and my friend was able to relate to an example of it, rather than a personal example. Some people need a reference to follow what you're trying to share about yourself. My example had to do with my friend and aunt getting thrown into a rage over breadcrumbs on the counter.
AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 1y
Well, people don't even want to listen. They just don't agree with me, they try to disprove my worries too much to listen. It takes effort from both parties, I can't make others listen to me or understand my feelings
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 1y
@Anonymous Listening is a skill though, and they probably haven't developed that skill though. Don't give up, when someone starts giving unsolicited advice rather than actively listening and reaffirming, please know that's not the right space for you to share...a part of learning to communicate effectively is to share with the right audience. Remember that it takes a lot of effort to disprove a person's worries. People are trying, so that should feel validating regardless. They're listening to a degree, so be positive when it comes to others. Being human is hard, and we need a lot of life experience to be able to be skilled.
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 1y
@Anonymous Not listening to me and trying to disprove my worries makes me feel not validated. And they listen just enough to argue with my thoughts; I often find myself listening more than talking. I've given them a lot of chances to listen to me too
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 1y
Lots of people have boundaries when it comes to the type and kind of personal information someone is trying to share with them...so I think you're experiencing other people trying to establish boundaries with you, not necessarily an intent to invalidate
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 1y
I dunno
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 1y
@Anonymous Having OCD is an incredibly lonely experience, but this is a really great community to belong to. We are all sharing specific symptoms and many of us are relating to them. I hope you don't feel as alone on here by communicating with us
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 1y
@Anonymous Well, there's certainly been no lack of trying
HarryPotter26HarryPotter26
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- 1y
I’m so so sorry you’re feeling so lonely.❤️ Did you try joining one of the NOCD support groups? Maybe that can below right he loneliness? Sending love and praying for peace for all of us ❤️
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 1y
The issue is what I said in my main post. Nobody gets how I feel. It's not that I don't have anyone to talk to -- it's that when I do talk to people, they never understand.
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- Date posted
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