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- 6y
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- 6y
i don't have hocd, but when im in public i just focus on mindfulness and my breathing or the feel of the breeze on my skin. i tell myself that it's not worth engaging my thoughts and turn back to the real world around me
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- 6y
@b13 how do you deal with it/ understand that this is t real attraction?
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- 6y
I go back and forth (of course). Sometimes I’ll know it’s not real and I’ll think this whole thing is ridiculous. Other times I don’t know and I feel anxious and depressed and nervous. I realised today that when I look at women, I don’t feel anything positive. Yes I can understand they’re pretty but I don’t feel anything significant. I’ve had this realisation so many times but it never sticks and I still check every time. And the fact that I check makes me think ‘oh my god why am I even checking’ and it’ll start again. I really struggle to be honest, I’ve never gotten help. Sorry I can’t be of more help right now, but this app is really helpful just to not feel alone so I hope you feel better being able to speak to people who are going through the same, even if you question that sometimes.
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- 6y
I understand how this feels. I’ll feel really nervous and then I use the fact that I feel nervous as ‘proof’, e.g I feel nervous around this woman, that must mean I like her. It’s horrible and I hate it, I hate watching tv lately too because I’m sick of analysing my feelings towards every single person
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- 6y
i can’t even look at social media or pictures of women any more out of feat that i attracted to them. this is the worst pain i have ever felt.
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- 6y
I completely understand this. I work in a shop serving customers all day and whenever I serve a woman, checking attraction is literally automatic and I wish more than anything that I could stop it. I am aware I don’t feel anything and that should reassure me but it doesn’t, I have to keep checking every time
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- 6y
it’s just that my whole life ive loved boys and never noticed women. or if i did i was just like oh she’s pretty and that was it. if i thought a woman was pretty it was more because i wanted to look like them, not BE with them. now i feel that my whole entire world is flipped upside down. whenever i see a billboard or any media with women i get so anxious bc i automatically just think they’re pretty even tho i know with certainty that i wouldn’t have noticed them before. what’s even crazier is that right before this all started i was so into (basically in love with) this boy i had been talking to for months and would have been his girlfriend if we didn’t move away.
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- 6y
I feel this way a lot, I used to hate going out in public cause of all the girls. Then it got to a point where I’d just keep imagining things with them and I’d just break down and be in such pain because I wanted to stop thinking about that.
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- 6y
same it’s truly just torture and so hard to then convince yourself it means nothing (because it doesn’t, assuming that you also have never thought about a woman that way nor ever had this cross your kind before hand) it’s just so crazy all of this.
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- 6y
Yeah like you said I only noticed when they were pretty and stuff or a nice body that I’d like to have. But never have I crushed on one or thought about them the way I did with boys.
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- 6y
same, i’m just hoping that we both go back to normal as soon as we can and fully recover from this.
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- 17w
I’ve been struggling with HOCD for years, and it started with an intrusive thought about being gay when I was younger. It came up at age 12 and ever since, I’ve been trapped in a cycle of doubt and anxiety. I obsess over whether or not I’m secretly gay, even though I don’t feel that way at all. What makes it worse is the fear that I might have internalized homophobia, and that’s why I’m having these obsessive thoughts. I worry that my anxiety is a sign that I’m repressing something or rejecting part of myself. It feels like my mind keeps repeating the same question—am I gay?—and no matter how much reassurance I get, the fear doesn’t go away. I used to pray for my family members, fearing that if I didn’t, something bad would happen to them, and now it feels like I have to control these thoughts, or something will go wrong. For a while, it was quieter, but a week ago, the thoughts spiraled up again, and now the anxiety feels overwhelming again. It’s exhausting, and I don’t know how to break free from this constant loop of doubt. Has anyone dealt with the fear of internalized homophobia alongside HOCD? How do you manage the anxiety that comes with it?
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- 16w
I’ve been dealing with SOOCD for over a year now, and I have been having a very hard day today. I feel like I just need someone to talk too, my whole life I’ve always had girl crushes and always wanted to be romantic with women . Ever since I posted this picture on instagram and one person said I looked “zesty” in it , which is when I started obsessing about being gay . I feel like I put so much meaning to these thoughts where now I’m always checking how I feeling around men. I had a really bad porn addiction for a long time and bad anxiety which fucked up my sex drive. I feel like I doubt if I’m attracted to women when I know I am , but the doubt is so overbearing where I start to believe it . I never was interested in men sexually, and my ocd makes me feel like I like the thoughts even though I feel no pleasure out of it. I feel like I lost who I am as a person . It feels like I don’t even know what my sexuality is and it’s really upsetting to me . I meant this girl the other day and she is the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met and I just feel like ocd is getting in the way😭😭😭 please any advice or comments
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- 13w
I feel like I'm lying to myself, like I just don't accept that I'm gay, I don't want to be gay, I don't want to feel any kind of attraction anymore, I want to go to a psychologist to find out if I really have hocd or if it's just an excuse, because it feels like I really am gay, but nothing was authentic, it all started with thoughts that made me panic extremely hard and I felt like crying and I had delusions, I don't understand why this is happening to me, I didn't like any boys before the thoughts appeared, but exactly one day after they appeared, all the boys were attractive, of all ages, I want to recover :( I'm only 17 years old, for about 2 months I've been having thoughts, I don't know what to do, I can't go to a psychologist, I need help :(
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