❗️❗️❗️❗️Today I found out about compulsory heterosexuality and I think this is the biggest trigger I‘ve ever had for my HOCD. I read this: „Here are some examples of how compulsory sexuality may manifest itself and look for girls who feel unwanted and ungenuine attraction towards men: * I‘m too young/busy to have a boyfriend * I just have high standards, that’s why I don’t have a boyfriend * Everyone must feel attraction to girls or think that girls are hot, the way I feel towards other girls is normal for straight girls ... and so on...“ There were so much more that sounded horrible for my HOCD. These three sentences are exactly what I sometimes say, but I really mean it so, but now this „compulsory heterosexuality“ destroys all of my believes, now I believe I‘m lesbian and I‘ve lied to myself all my life long... I just want to cry and this to end Some even wrote on twitter „If you feel confused now write be, I will be happy If some found themselves in it and understand that their lesbian“ Who am I? Why cant this just stop

http://www.psychologyandbehavior.com/hocd-homosexual-ocd-sexual-orientation/

This really scares me. Mostly the second bullet point mentioned. I don’t know what to do either

Woah, that was scary.... but I’m sure it doesn’t mean anything

Yeah, this really made me ruminate I have really high anxiety right now.

Yeah I read another post about it and they were saying that they would talk about men to people so they would think they liked men. Now I’m ruminating if I’ve ever done that. Or now every single time me and my best friend talk about men I feel like I can’t talk about them because it must be compulsive heterosexuality. I hate it.

It’s okay don’t worry. I was already having not a great day hahaha. Hope you’re okay x

I’ve seen many articles, I have HOCD as well. And believe me, I’ve seen hundreds of articles and not one has sounded genuine to me. I’ve heard of people going through this, but I’m skeptical of it to say the least. I honestly think it’s to make sexuality more complex than it really is. I’ve heard “ego-dystonic homosexuality” and other stuff like that. (By the way, there is absolutely no such thing as an ego-dystonic sexuality, that makes absolutely no sense.) So take what you read on the internet with a grain, no a boulder of salt. Anything especially when it comes to sexuality in my opinion should not be looked at by people with HOCD. It will confuse you and make it worse.

Thank you really much for your answer, it sounds very logical and calmed me down! Thank you! And yes, nowadays sexuality is getting more and more confusing, there are thousand of labels, that makes us HOCD people often believe we don‘t have OCD because we could have this and that as there are hundreds of labels and names and orientations nowadays

Yea girls, me too... I don‘t know what o believe anymore ... I feel so anxious

I‘m sorry for scaring y‘all!! ?

Maybe they do that because they know they are lesbian and want to deny it... I don‘t know, thinking too much right now

Sounds like a crock to me to be honest.

Why do you think that? I really don’t know what to think about these articles...

Can you guys reply to my last post? I need some advice.