Feeling overwhelmed by self-doubt due to my mom's criticism. Can I cope?

Mom?

I feel disgusting and ashamed!!!! My mom texted my sibling and got mad at them because she thought they don’t know to take care of themself and then she said “I’m so exhausted between you and Ishil”. I can’t. I can’t do this. My mom keeps making me believe things SHE thinks about! What if I don’t know how to care of myself?! I try so hard! But then what if I’m not?! I already feel self doubt and she’s triggering me to an extent that I might do self harm and start bleeding!!

Username: hankypanky18hankypanky18

Date posted: 49w ago

hey please don’t hurt yourself because of something someone else said, it’s not worth it and it won’t help anyone! please message me if you feel like you have no one else to talk to, i will talk with you, but don’t hurt yourself, there are better ways to handle this!

Username: skhmc3skhmc3

Date posted: 49w ago

Sometimes others put their stress and feelings on others as a way to relieve that stress from themselves. You are not what others think about you!! You are strong and can do amazing things. I bet coming from such an influential person in your life is really impacting you though and it must be super hard on you. I am proud of you. Working to write down things you love about yourself every day can definitely help! Another thing that could help is to write a to-do list of simple things to do everyday that will make you feel accomplished like brushing your teeth, making your bed, showering etc. You can do this! I believe in you!! Wishing you health & healing!! If you ever want someone to talk to you can always come to me!!❤️

Username: HarryPotter26HarryPotter26

Date posted: 49w ago

Please don’t hurt yourself ❤️ that will only make things worse! You are so much greater than what others say or think of you! That’s her problem not yours! You got this ❤️ sending love and healing! Reach out any time!

Username: JenniesOCDBrainJenniesOCDBrain

Date posted: 49w ago

hey there, i'm really sorry to hear you're going through such a tough time. it sounds incredibly hard to have your own worries and then to feel like your mom's words are adding to that weight. it's really rough when our own mind is already a battlefield and then outside comments make us question ourselves even more. i get it, i've got my own tangle with pure o, different obsessions but that same relentless doubt and anxiety. just know i'm here to listen, okay? speaking of something that might be of help, my therapist told me about this free ai ocd therapy tool called "unstuck" (www.AIOCDtool.com). given what you're dealing with, it could be a real lifeline. it's designed to help you when ocd's grip is super tight, by guiding you through the thoughts step-by-step, just like a pro would. it's not about pushing an app at you - i honestly hate that too - but "unstuck" has been a game-changer for me, and i just want to share something that could offer you some relief. if you've got questions or want to chat about it, i'm all ears. 🌟

Username: g432

Date posted: 4y ago

Does anybody else feel like their mom just doesnt understand the extent to which u are suffering with ocd and it makes u so upset. Like i told my mom i was cleaning bc nobody else in the house does. She got so upset and said she always cleans. She meant like vacumming and dishes and stuff, but i meant disinfecting bc i have contamination ocd. But she didnt underatmd me and started saying how she always cleans but im just sleeping in too late to see. She was really upset w me. Then i said that she is thinking the worst of me the while time. Then she said that im the one being so judgy.. what?? Like does she even understand this occupies my life. I literally have dreams about it, my whole life revolves around it. Its the only thing i think about.

Username: Ishil

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 49w ago

Am I a loser? Am I disgusting?

Whenever my mom thinks I’m trying to argue on purpose, that makes me think “what if I am?” “What if I’m just a baby who can’t take what she said”. I feel scared. I just disagreed with her when she told me not to wash my clothes with my work clothes because they’ll smell bad and I disagreed because she’s never said a word about this for years but two years before she told me not to wash them separately because that’s wasting electricity. So, her shutting me down by saying “don’t argue with me” makes no sense to me but at the same I feel like “does this make sense though? What if I’m just an asshole to her?” Then before she got irritated with me when I was about to throw away expired lemonade but she was the one who yelled at me by saying “if you’re not having it just throw it away!” Like I honestly don’t know what she wants me to do anymore!!!!! Sometimes when changes their mind or something, I keep feeling like “what if I’m schizophrenic and I just thought that had happened” or “what if I’m crazy” or “why am I upset by this? What if they didn’t change their mind and I’m just thinking something else” My parents getting irritated with me makes me feel like I’ve done so much wrong and I end up losing my motivation but that makes me feel even more gross because I’m not bothering to wash the dishes now..

Username: mjabel25

Date posted: 14w ago

Mom

My mom just told me she doesn’t really believe that I have ocd because I don’t have enough “repetitive actions” and I just have bad anxiety. I feel so beaten down that someone so close to me doesn’t believe my struggles :(

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