Has anybody on here ever experienced a loss of sex drive that has caused intrusive thoughts around their relationship or sexuality? I have absolutely no libido and it’s causing me a ton of distress.
anxiety can cause you to lose your sex drive. enjoying sex has a lot to do with feeling a sense of comfort. if you’re constantly in a state of fear you’re not really in the moment therefore how are you gonna enjoy it. doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. sex drive comes and goes for everyone
I will say that this theme has hit my sex drive pretty hard. The anxiety lowers it the most for me. It adds fuel to the compulsions, that's for sure.
@ZTValen I’m really sorry you’re experiencing this too. Have you tried anything to overcome this?
@al-pal For me, I've just been working on my exposures, as plain of an answer as that is. It's cut and dry, but it works. My wife understands that my OCD is troublesome, so she's patient with me. Outside of that, I've been keeping busy with work and my hobbies.
Me, which has led me to avoid possible encounters, even though I want them, but the possibility of failing due to low libido hits me hard.
@Carlos A I tend to avoid them as well, but it’s really hard being engaged. I want to be close to my fiancé but I have no interest in sex. And I can’t tell if my OCD is causing this low sex drive, or if my low sex drive is contributing to the intrusive thoughts.
@al-pal In my case I think that both scenarios that you propose happen to me, before all the obsession I did not fail, now after many years of rumination and fear and anxiety I am focusing a lot on every sensation and reaction, I am not relaxed and that feeds the obsession because it tells you that if I don't have a libido or I can't perform it means that my fear is real, which leads me to compulsions and being more anxious about intimacy, even though deep down I want to be there.
@Carlos A What have you tried to overcome this?
@al-pal I really haven't been able to do much, I constantly test myself and ruminate all day, I am mentally preparing myself to cut all connection with the compulsions, this is difficult because a failure in bed already happened to me and I was down for months, I could even say I have a trauma because of it, I'm just looking for a way to try again but at my own pace, without pressure, and reconnect with that confidence that I had before all this, but I think the main thing is to cut off the compulsions and expose myself to triggers, and then try, although my biggest fear is not connecting with women again, I hope it comes back in the future, I don't lose hope, it is there but quite weak
What is libido or lose of sex drive
@JohnKit Not wanting to have sex/no desire of anything sexual
Have you found anything that helps?
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