Ocd causing anger issues

Because i overthink the smallest things, in my relationship i end up believing a lot of my anxieties, jumping to conclusions and making assumptions. This has many times caused such big arguments between me and my bf, many of which turn out to just be that I did not understand him on something, or that I have these crazy expectations because I constantly want everything to be perfect. I read into the tiniest things so often, that my bf has often felt that basically any little thing he would do I would somehow find something wrong. It overwhelms him, and it overwhelms me as well. The scariest thing is that me just reading something on social media can trigger this. I hate seeing “couple advice” or “relationship” videos on social media, because it causes me to overanalyze my entire relationship and the whole thing of “if you look hard enough for a problem, you will find one, and my brain will practically make up a problem, and will turn something so insignificant into something that i just freak out over. I really do not want to be like this… im tired of constantly freaking out over nothing. I want to be happy, and that has become so rare for me that when i do notice myself smiling, it is something I celebrate over. I dont know what to do anymore.

Username: FeraroFeraro

Date posted: 47w ago

Not to mention those relationship videos on social media make me think “how is a relationship SUPPOSED to be?” Logically i understand that nothing is SUPPOSED to be in any way, but my brain does NOT understand that. My brain thinks EVERYTHING is SUPPOSED to be a certain way, and when there are any signs that it isnt that way, especially if it is my relationship, i freak out. I start to think, what if things go horribly wrong, what if it’s a sign that we arent supposed to be together, what if if we stay together there will be problems, what if all these horrible insane scenarios happen that are not even the slightest amount likely to happen (just speaking from the kind of gentle, beautiful, lovely, caring person he is). He is a very caring, but able-bodied and fun person, he loves to joke around, but I… I don’t know why but for some reason I have started to take so many of his jokes seriously. I used to be so laid back about it and would understand that it’s just a joke but for some reason I take everything so seriously now and it concerns me. It causes me so much anxiety, and I dont know why, I dont know if it was just the sheer amount of arguments we have had (just that fact causes my ocd to go through the roof), or just.. stress in general.. or being so busy that there isnt much time for us to hang out and have fun anymore. I just want to not freak out over literal jokes and small things. I want to chill out and be happy.

Username: miademby28miademby28

Date posted: 47w ago

I get this a lot! I struggle with this too. I live with my boyfriend and his best friend and younger brother. and that’s 3 men who all ick me out at times and I tend to freak and lose it.

Username: miademby28miademby28

Date posted: 47w ago

I also overthink my relationship and sometimes it affects things. I also invalidate myself a lot and tend to think I’m just mentally ill and in the wrong

Username: Lean_into_the_unknown Lean_into_th...

Date posted: 16d ago

I can relate. This was posted awhile back. Social media is extremely triggering for me. It is important to meet yourself with compassion which is difficult..it's so difficult. When you said you were freaking out over nothing I get how you feel but rocd can cause intense feelings. You question loyalty, question yourself, and we are very hard on ourselves. OCD can be debilitating but we don't to let ocd pull the strings. Accepting uncertainty within a relationship sometimes feels impossible but imagine the freedom you can achieve when stepping into uncertainty. We are capable and we will overcome this! I'm not sure if your working with a therapist but bringing up the triggers on social media may be a good opportunity to practice ERP.

Username: sams07

Date posted: 5y ago

Advice please! I have OCD, and it’s wormed it’s way to my relationship. It particularly revolves around social media, trust and the security of being together “forever”. I whole heartedly trust my partner. However, we all know that OCD causes doubt in the most rational things. Lately, if I get an irrational thought, I ask my partner if it’s true or not true, I get the affirmation I need, and then I feel intense guilt. The cycle begins again because I feel insecure for asking such questions, How do I work through these nagging thoughts and not bring my boyfriend into it? I get super impulsive and just ask him to reassure me. When I don’t ask him and challenge the thought, I’m really moody with him. I’ve had OCD my entire life and have “cured” other obsessions/rituals but for some reason, this one is tough, since another person is involved. Any advice?!

Relationship OCD

Username: Maria

Date posted: 4y ago

I have really terrible relationship OCD. The second I sense something is off, I overthink it until I’m exhausted and then I become uninterested in the relationship. At this point I don’t want to speak to my partner because ok afraid I’ll get triggered further. Any tips, thoughts?

Relationship OCD

Username: Leenabean25

Date posted: 1y ago

I don’t know how to love my boyfriend

Over a year together with him, and I’ve just recently learned that I have relationship OCD and perfectionist OCD. We talked about it, but I can sense it breaking his heart when I tell him that I cycle between wanting to marry him to breaking up over and over everyday. Constantly evaluating every word or action of his, what shirt he wears that day, how he brushed his hair, what he ate for lunch, who he talked to, what he spent money on, etc any of these things can trigger me into an episode of intrusive thoughts about him not being the one, he’s wrong for me, I’m trapped, I need to get out. It can also swing the other way to me feeling an impulse to go to the courthouse and get married right there. I know that I love him, I always desire to spend time with him; and I picture my future with him in it. He’s such a wonderful person. I don’t know how to stop this emotional rollercoaster my mind straps me into everyday. I just want to be in love and feel secure. How will I ever get married with all of these doubts attacking me everyday?? I can’t stop myself from constantly lecturing him on his flaws and what he needs to change for me to love him more consistently. I feel like a cold and evil person. Will I ever have clarity? Is he really as flawed as I think he is or am I sabotaging the best thing in my life?

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