Hi guys I’m currently going through a difficult phase. I have been trying to get out of this from almost a year. But recently the thing that makes is anxious is my loved ones. Whenever I’m talking or see my girl friend or even any other girls , I feel very nervous.Can anybody please help,if anybody gone through this please give me a hand. Regards,
I've felt that before too. My boyfriend became sort of a trigger for me. When I was with him or saw him, things got worse sometimes. Of course, we're still together after three and a half years and just as I did then, I don't engage with the thoughts when they come up. I know that sometimes he's a trigger and I know I shouldn't engage in those thoughts when they lead to an OCD cycle. I hope that was helpful, you're not alone
@hp12345 Thank you for the response The thing is i can’t even hug or kiss her. Sometimes the intimate thoughts even makes me anxious😞 How can i tell her
@hp12345 Has this passed for you? I’m kinda going through some sort of the same thing.
@number7 - Yes, but it didn't happen over night. In fact, it took some time to 1. gain confidence and stop using avoidance as a compulsions in many facets of our relationship and 2. be patient and trust the process of not giving in to intrusive thoughts by doing compulsions when an intrusive thought came. I had to really work on not giving into intrusive thoughts when we were together, whether sitting on the couch or being intimate. It was so upsetting for me when it was happening because those are things I love doing with my boyfriend and OCD latched right onto to them with no mercy. There were times we were sitting on the couch and I was doing compulsions about if I should have been doing x, y, z and the same thing when we were intimate. Sorry if that's TMI, but OCD doesn't give you a break and I've seen a lot of people get triggered from intimacy (from many subtypes). If you're not already with a therapist from NOCD, I would really recommend finding one and starting the therapy that you 100% deserve. I hope I could help!
@Richii - You can tell her when you're ready or never tell her at all. It's totally up to you, but you should do some research about HOW to tell her and figure out what role you want to ask her to be in. If neither of you quite understand how to respond to the intrusive thoughts, you might be giving in to compulsions and making it worse for yourself. I'm not a therapist, but I know that involving people is very uplifting and motivating and they can be really supportive, but they can, without knowing, make things worse.
Hello, im a 21ye old male. All of my life i was always atrscted to girls, even if it was only a hug by a girl i liked i got a boner. I always fantasised about doing fun stuff (not onyl sex) with my gf. Had a gf for almost two years. Two months ago i fell into severe anxiety about my sexuality changing. It happened to me 2 years ago bit then i had my gf and i did not need to worry if i will find a girl i love or will i be able to because i already had her. The toughts were realy intense but they faded and for 2 years i did not experience any doubts or fears about it. Then it happened again in december. For 2-3 weeks i was realy down...constant toughts about doing things with men i never wanted to do, fear that i liked someone, fear of denial...but them bc of getting back with my girlfriend it was okay for three weeks almosf. Then we broke up again and after a few days i had the worst days of my life. I felt like i actually changed, i did not know what to do. Then after a week I went out with a girl and when she laid on me when we wafched a show I got aroused like i always did with my ex. I felt such relief and i could handle my fears and anxiety for almost a month. Then a week ago the fear returned and i am again in a very bad spot, i dont know what else to do, i have no girl that i love, i am afraid i will never be able to experience those same feelings and moment that i had with my ex and then again the toughts of being in denial came back. I dont know what to do. My psychiatrist said i dont have ocd but onyl simptoms and that my anxiety is the proboem. Any one experienced something similar? Thanks
Hi all, I deal with HOCD and been seeing a therapist for about 3.5 months. It has definitely got better but still affects me very much. Was wondering there is anyone out there who has dealt with HOCD as well and has recovered. I would love to message or even chat just see how your experience was and hear what was beneficial to you.
I don’t know what to do anymore, this started nearly a year ago and caused so much stress and panic attacks over the thought of loosing my boyfriend. Now it just feels real and that he always liked girls and suppressed it (but like the boys i always liked in the past were real feelings they had to be and with my boyfriend i love him) but i haven’t got much anxiety now feels like i want the thoughts and that they don’t bother me even tho they used to, this seems to happen every time i get a lil better, idk just feels so true and that’s what i acc want with no stress, just a lil scared.
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