Moms with pocd

Moms who have pocd and groinals. Can anyone relate? Intimacy is a very hard thing for me because I'm always worried of intrusive and groinals. I actually was sort of contemplating with my husband later and I wanted to. Then we ate dinner and then my son sat on my lap and it's like I was waiting to feel any feeling in my body. And I kept feeling like I was feeling something. So now I feel like it will have to be another night since I don't want to do it just in case I had some sort of groinal response. I guess my question is has any other mom dealt with this exact thing and how did you escape from this? Ugh it's been years I've been tormented by this. But I can't just go do it anyways because I'm afraid the groinal could have been real and then I'm acting on it somehow. Ughhh

Username: SailorMoon07SailorMoon07

Date posted: 50w ago

Really practice ERP!! Stick with the ick ~ I always say! (Even though it freakin sucks!!) Have some compassion on yourself too. Don’t judge yourself or your intrusive thoughts. If your partner and you are trying to enjoy yourselves; do just that. Be in the moment with them. Maybe even let them know you are having anxiety. If any thoughts come.. just let them be. Thoughts don’t mean anything.. especially intrusive thoughts. I know from experience that what you are going through is literally THE WORST type of OCD. And I’m so sorry you are going through it too. BUT it does and will get better! 🙌♥️ I got on sertraline which has helped me tremendously with my OCD. Getting on this app and just reading other people’s posts has helped. I also bought myself an OCD workbook to help. (Can’t afford therapy as of yet..) It was right after I started dealing with this theme that I just needed all the help I could get. I couldn’t eat. I couldn’t sleep. I was a nervous reck. It’s something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. I am praying for you, and others dealing with it too. ♥️ Also just remember; you’re an amazing mom! You can get this!!

Username: Anonymous2414Anonymous2414

Date posted: 50w ago

Thank you so much for replying. I'm sorry you deal with it too. It's hard to do erp when it's more than the thoughts and it's the body feelings part. One time he sat on my lap a few months ago I noticed like this wetness or dryness in my underwear when I kept getting repeat groinals that felt so intense. I hope it wasn't from that but it's so hard to push past. I hate when it happens around ovulation because I hear women get more in the mood around ovulation so I always assume my groinals are true around that time. Sorry I'm going on. But its this part that keeps me so stuck

Username: Ryan MullenRyan Mullen

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 50w ago

I have had every theme of OCD possible. I always get past every one of them. This year I'm getting ERP therapy so I never have to go full blown OCD again. You will overcome and have a healthy relationship with your kids and husband.

Username: Randomuzer97638Randomuzer97638

Date posted: 50w ago

I understand completely!!😭😭😭 sometimes when my son sits in my lap like the pressure of it feels good and then I start to freak out like why would I even think like that, I’m constantly pushing my son off of me because I don’t want to accidentally feel that way. It’s hard with women because some things unintentionally feel good, it’s just all nerves and what not down there. But nevertheless it makes me feel disgusting. Intimacy is a hard one for me too, because whenever my partner and I are about to do something I’ll have an intrusive though and I’m like if I keep going and I had that intrusive thought, even if I did push it away isn’t that still gross? Like how could I after that thought. It’s harrrrdddd theme to live with. 😭 it’s a daily struggle and some days are harder. Sending love ❤️

Username: Randomuzer97638Randomuzer97638

Date posted: 50w ago

You’re not alone

Username: EricOCDmeEricOCDme

Date posted: 50w ago

Hey there, I can't imagine how tough it must be trying to maintain intimacy while managing the distressing thoughts and feelings that come with POCD and groinal responses. It sounds like you're in a really challenging situation, worrying about every sensation, especially when trying to share simple, affectionate moments with your son. I really hear how exhausting and tormenting this has been for you over the years. On a positive note, I want to share something that's been helpful for me: it's this AI OCD therapy tool called "unstuck" (check it out at https://unstuckmyocd.com/try). A member from my OCD support group mentioned it, and I just wish I had known about it sooner. It's particularly beneficial for scenarios like yours because it provides personalized, step-by-step support similar to what you'd get from an OCD therapist, all tailored to specifically address moments where intrusive thoughts and sensations become overwhelming. Please remember, I'm here if you have any questions about the tool or if you just need someone to talk to. 🌟

Username: inkblack

Date posted: 5y ago

POCD / In tears at family gathering/fear of touching? Any advice please. 34 y/o male. Have been suffering with POCD groinal reactions, ROCD, scrupulously, etc for many years. Does anyone fear that they are trying to touch or rub against people? Sometimes this thing will happen where something will provoke me to move my body (like turn around or move out of the way of something) and I’ll worry that what’s actually happening is that I’m trying to rub against someone. This happened last year at a party I was at where a woman walked by and I moved away to let her by, but was really worried that I had actually tried to touch her. The same thing happened again today only with my 11 year old niece. Having POCD, I have had horrifying groinal reactions/false arousal around her. God, I hate this disorder. I would never dream of doing anything inappropriate to her. OCD has been a terror to me for the last few family gatherings. I think something got my attention in the line to get food from the kitchen counter and I turned to get out of the way. In the split second that it took me to turn around, I heard one of the kids in our family (couldn’t tell if it was my niece or nephew) approach. I am really, really worried that I had an impulse to rub against my niece in this split second. I was horrified. I would never ever under any circumstances try to do something inappropriate to my niece, but I’m worried that my body just did it on its own. Turns out, it was my nephew standing behind me and I didn’t even touch him when I turned around. I am relieved that I didn’t bump into him, but I can’t help but wonder - what was my intention? Did my body really move to touch what I thought was my niece? Anyone relate?

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Username: anne.abby

Date posted: 42w ago

Groinal 🥴

I’m 29 weeks pregnant and keep having intrusive thoughts about my husband sexually abusing my husband. And what’s worse is that I’m having groinal responses. It makes it so confusing. These thoughts are obviously repulsive and make me horrified. But the groinal response makes me question if I am turned on by something so awful??? I mostly have pocd. What can be done about this? Also, I have handled my ocd in the past successfully. This feels like if I am aroused by this then maybe I need help. It’s also making me like freaked out even when I am aroused by normal things, like my husband.

"Pure" OCD

Username: iwanttogetbe...

Date posted: 15w ago

groinal response and constant checking

i've never been comfortable enough to post anything on here but today i thought i would try. i want to start off by saying i am not diagnosed with ocd but i have strong reason to believe i may have ocd. i want therapy but don't know how to tell my parents because this topic is one that makes me highly uncomfortable to the point where i can not breath. but here goes... starting in july of this year i began noticing symptoms of ocd. i was scrolling on instagram when a photo of a baby popped up in my feed. i was reading the caption when all of a sudden i became aware of my groinal area and i felt movement. i felt immediately sick to my stomach... wtf was happening to me? i then closed the app and sat there for a second thinking to myself "did i just get aroused by looking at the photo of a child?". i tested myself(one of the worst things to do, giving my ocd power) and reopened the app to look at the photo once more. i was obviously going to feel movement down below if i was hyper fixating on that area for ANY movement at all. and i did. i then started having cold and hot flashes, sweating, the room spinning, feeling as if i was going to throw up and pass out at the same time. was i a p3do??? did i like children?? of course the answer is no. but my ocd is twisting those thoughts and feelings into something more than they are, just thoughts and feelings. for the past few months after my first episode with ocd i have become more accepting of the fact that these feelings aren't meaningful. these do not align with what i truly believe which is why i feel so sick when they happen. but i will admit there are days when it is really tough for me to discern my thoughts from my intrusive ocd thoughts. i am constantly hyper aware of whatever is happening down there and its really frustrating and exhausting. it has now moved beyond pocd, every interaction everything i see i subconsciously am testing myself to see if i am aroused which leaves me to constantly feel a state of physical arousal. i know i should go to therapy but i am worried to tell my parents. like "hey mom and dad i have been having weird thoughts and feelings regarding children i think i need therapy" they would be horrified. i feel guilty and awful, my parents don't deserve that. i just don't know what to do. for a few years i had actually been wanting children of my own when im older, i had been thrifting the cutest baby outfits and thinking of how cool it would be to have a mini-me. now i feel as though that won't be possible. and i just don't know what to do.

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