Moms with pocd

Moms who have pocd and groinals. Can anyone relate? Intimacy is a very hard thing for me because I'm always worried of intrusive and groinals. I actually was sort of contemplating with my husband later and I wanted to. Then we ate dinner and then my son sat on my lap and it's like I was waiting to feel any feeling in my body. And I kept feeling like I was feeling something. So now I feel like it will have to be another night since I don't want to do it just in case I had some sort of groinal response. I guess my question is has any other mom dealt with this exact thing and how did you escape from this? Ugh it's been years I've been tormented by this. But I can't just go do it anyways because I'm afraid the groinal could have been real and then I'm acting on it somehow. Ughhh

Username: SailorMoon07SailorMoon07

Date posted: 45w ago

Really practice ERP!! Stick with the ick ~ I always say! (Even though it freakin sucks!!) Have some compassion on yourself too. Don’t judge yourself or your intrusive thoughts. If your partner and you are trying to enjoy yourselves; do just that. Be in the moment with them. Maybe even let them know you are having anxiety. If any thoughts come.. just let them be. Thoughts don’t mean anything.. especially intrusive thoughts. I know from experience that what you are going through is literally THE WORST type of OCD. And I’m so sorry you are going through it too. BUT it does and will get better! 🙌♥️ I got on sertraline which has helped me tremendously with my OCD. Getting on this app and just reading other people’s posts has helped. I also bought myself an OCD workbook to help. (Can’t afford therapy as of yet..) It was right after I started dealing with this theme that I just needed all the help I could get. I couldn’t eat. I couldn’t sleep. I was a nervous reck. It’s something I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy. I am praying for you, and others dealing with it too. ♥️ Also just remember; you’re an amazing mom! You can get this!!

Username: Anonymous2414Anonymous2414

Date posted: 45w ago

Thank you so much for replying. I'm sorry you deal with it too. It's hard to do erp when it's more than the thoughts and it's the body feelings part. One time he sat on my lap a few months ago I noticed like this wetness or dryness in my underwear when I kept getting repeat groinals that felt so intense. I hope it wasn't from that but it's so hard to push past. I hate when it happens around ovulation because I hear women get more in the mood around ovulation so I always assume my groinals are true around that time. Sorry I'm going on. But its this part that keeps me so stuck

Username: Ryan MullenRyan Mullen

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 45w ago

I have had every theme of OCD possible. I always get past every one of them. This year I'm getting ERP therapy so I never have to go full blown OCD again. You will overcome and have a healthy relationship with your kids and husband.

Username: Randomuzer97638Randomuzer97638

Date posted: 45w ago

I understand completely!!😭😭😭 sometimes when my son sits in my lap like the pressure of it feels good and then I start to freak out like why would I even think like that, I’m constantly pushing my son off of me because I don’t want to accidentally feel that way. It’s hard with women because some things unintentionally feel good, it’s just all nerves and what not down there. But nevertheless it makes me feel disgusting. Intimacy is a hard one for me too, because whenever my partner and I are about to do something I’ll have an intrusive though and I’m like if I keep going and I had that intrusive thought, even if I did push it away isn’t that still gross? Like how could I after that thought. It’s harrrrdddd theme to live with. 😭 it’s a daily struggle and some days are harder. Sending love ❤️

Username: Randomuzer97638Randomuzer97638

Date posted: 45w ago

You’re not alone

Username: EricOCDmeEricOCDme

Date posted: 45w ago

Hey there, I can't imagine how tough it must be trying to maintain intimacy while managing the distressing thoughts and feelings that come with POCD and groinal responses. It sounds like you're in a really challenging situation, worrying about every sensation, especially when trying to share simple, affectionate moments with your son. I really hear how exhausting and tormenting this has been for you over the years. On a positive note, I want to share something that's been helpful for me: it's this AI OCD therapy tool called "unstuck" (check it out at https://unstuckmyocd.com/try). A member from my OCD support group mentioned it, and I just wish I had known about it sooner. It's particularly beneficial for scenarios like yours because it provides personalized, step-by-step support similar to what you'd get from an OCD therapist, all tailored to specifically address moments where intrusive thoughts and sensations become overwhelming. Please remember, I'm here if you have any questions about the tool or if you just need someone to talk to. 🌟

Username: @Lulu

Date posted: 4y ago

Hi all, I have an ERP question. I have POCD and I am terrified I would enjoy harming a child, particularly young girls. When I practice exposure I get several things: fear, dread, negative talk AND the big one, a very intense, very real groinal response. I often obsess that if get rid the fear/anxiety, I am left with the thoughts and the grional response. Which You can imagine I fear. Like, the only thing that separates me from a pedofile is my fear, why would I get rid of it? Regardless, I still experience some relieve after practicing exposure but I am left with a groinal response that stays lingering all day and eventually becomes a trigger. Anyone else experiences this? Any suggestions to work trough this in ERP?

Username: Maeh24

Date posted: 1y ago

Any moms with pocd?

Please only read if you're an adult. About a year or so ago my husband tried to get me in the mood before being intimate and I couldn't get in the mood. After a while I ended up getting a quick pocd thought and then I felt something down there. And I remember thinking omg what does that mean. So I let him continue and I tried to see if the feeling would stop, but then as I was focusing I got more in the mood and reminded myself I was with my husband. But how did I go from not being in the mood at all to then feeling something down there with the pocd thought? Then I even obsess over if I wasn't attracted to him that night too because I remember saying I didn't want to kiss at all. I hate this so much.

Username: Anonymous2414

Date posted: 45w ago

Struggling. Mom with pocd answer please

I'm struggling. So a while back my son was sitting on my lap. He was sitting against my chest. But then I kept getting these groinal things. And I don't remember if I stayed there for a second and that trips me up bad. But what also makes me anxious is it got so intense that I moved him quick. Almost like I was worried I was having an "o" from the sensations of my chest and sitting on my lap. Then what makes me question the "o" thing is when I moved him away I got these weird like pulse feelings that I don't usually get with just a groinal and it happened at least 4-7 times or so. Like back to back. I hate this. I need to know it wasn't. And I also need to know I didn't keep him there for a second. Has any other mom felt like you kept them there for a second because of the feeling? And did you ever worry or question an "o" just from them sitting on your lap, etc. I'm so close to beating this monster 3/4 of the way. But this feels too real to let go of.

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