Does anyone else here also struggle with anxious attachment? Specifically over texting? I have it very bad with my girlfriend and she’s very secure. It is very hard for me to understand she might be busy and can’t text back within the time I want her to. Any tips or advice on how to heal my anxious attachment.
hey, i totally get how tough that can feel, the waiting can really spike your anxiety. remember, your gf's response time isn't a reflection of your worth or her feelings for you. you're not alone in feeling this way, and it's really brave to reach out about it. by the way, have you heard about this new AI-powered OCD therapy tool called 'unstuck'? i've been through similar stuff, and 'unstuck' (unstuckmyocd.com/try) was a game-changer for me after my NOCD therapist suggested it. i think it'll be especially helpful for you because it tailors support for moments when waiting on a text feels unbearable, offering that personalized guidance like an OCD therapist would. i hate when people promote stuff, but i really think it can help you because it's changed my life. lmk if you have Qs or just want to talk more! <3
I've dealt with that for years. The best thing I've done is reminding yourself that they have a life too. Not everyone wants screen time constantly, and its dangerous to walk around texting
@Wetsocks23 Thanks man
i feel the exact same way with my bf. he is neurodivergent and has trouble with texting. i try to remind myself that he has his own life and things he wants to do, and it’s totally okay for him to do his own thing just like me! i also make a list of things he’s said or done recently that have made me feel loved and wanted. i’m trying to heal it, but i do get obsessive sometimes and have setbacks!
I’ve been recovering from my recent TOCD flare up. For a week, I did not let my intrusive thoughts win or let me panic. Recently, my girlfriend has been super busy, distant, and stressed. For some reason, ever since she’s been like that, I have been falling into the darkness of TOCD. Not like I am blaming her at all. I was just wondering if the two were connected.
I double texted a girl that I really like today (we just started talking last week) and I'm kind of going insane now... is double texting actually that bad or am I having a flare-up?
Does anybody have any advice for how to help your partner cope with your anxiety? It causes a lot of tension and fight or flight feelings in my partner and it’s clearly very distressing for him. I don’t want him to feel anxious because I am.
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