Have you guys ever been on a couple dates and out of nowhere they say they are not feeling it. Like basically ghost you. My OCD want me to get and answer on what I did wrong or etc. I sent out one message but I am restraining myself to give in my compulsions to find an answer. It’s hurts so much 😢
I have been there SOOOO many times, so you’re definitely not alone in this. The only advice I have is to remember that anyone who could walk away from you is not the right person for you anyways. Try to reframe this as them doing you a favor because chances are that it wouldn’t have worked out with someone who didn’t know how to make you feel appreciated. At the end of the day, the specific reason why they left doesn’t actually matter. Try to make a list of qualities you’d want in your ideal partner and if this person didn’t check off a decent amount of those things, you owe it to yourself to find someone who can. Settling is overrated as hell.
Unfortunately this happens to a lot of people. Don't take it personally. People nowadays are too afraid of conflict so they just avoid it by ghosting people. It could be some ridiculous reason so just reframe it as being lucky you don't have to spend anymore time with them.
Yes, I’ll just have to keep telling myself this. My OCD is obsessed and goes into ruminating about the person. It’s like I am breaking my heart over and over. It sucks.
I’ve been diagnosed with OCD but I don’t have these intrusive thoughts like everyone else...so I’m convincing myself I don’t really have OCD I struggle I guess with rOCD (and more)...I guess I always check to see if a person texted me back. I blow up the persons phone until they respond. I use to have it really bad where I had so much anxiety if I didn’t do it and so much anxiety if I did. When guys leave me....I freak out and have damn near a heart attack from panicking so much. And once I get this thought in my head whether it’s “you should’ve said this” or “he probably lied to you when he said this” or whatever there’s this feeling in my body. It’s like an uncomfortable negative vibe and that thought becomes priority. I have to do it. I have to text them and it’s hard to think of anything else. And when I do it doesn’t stop so i shouldn’t give in but sometimes I do. And if I get over that thought later another might replace it and it starts again. Anybody else feel this way...?
My boyfriend freaked out when he found out I had OCD. He never looked at me the same way again. He broke up with me a few days after - we had been dating for 2 years. Has this happened to anyone? How did you cope? It’s been a few years since this happened and I still feel so embarrassed to this day.
I hope this doesn’t come across as a reassurance I’m wondering if a trait of OCD can make you feel like something is “off” in your relationship, almost like something is not right and that’s why you have to leave. I feel like deep down (in my heart) that I love my partner but I can’t get over this ”off feeling”, I’m absolutely terrified that it means that I’m just suppressing the truth (lying to myself) and I don’t actually want to be with him. I’m so lost with what to do or how to think, or even feel.
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