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- 6y
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- 6y
This is COMPLETELY normal for HOCD, and honestly very common. I wouldn’t unfollow them if I were you , why give your fears the power to control your life after all ? Avoiding people of the same sex is one of the most common parts of HOCD. I think you should sit with the fears and not avoid anyone of the same sex, because avoiding them isn’t getting under the fear, it’s only prolonging the anxiety. The best thing you can do is to confront your fears and tell them you won’t let them take control of you. Reassurance is also very relieving, but trust me, it does way more harm than good. It will always come back again, sometimes when you least expect it, because it’s keeping you in the vicious cycle of OCD. You have to make the fear not a fear anymore. Best of luck to you, if you ever need anything at all feel free to reach out !
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- 6y
I get scared I’ll be attracted to my friends but when I’m with them I don’t really feel anything but just laugh with them because that’s what friends do ?, it’s weird how this works except once I decided to see how it felt if I thought about marrying my friend and I felt this really weird feeling like if I was happy and I got freaked out. But then I thought about what married couples do and I was like “ew” and idk why my mind works the way it does. I hate it. I’m really deep into this and I can’t seem to crawl back out.
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- 6y
Don’t worry i’m in the same boat. It’s so weird how it all works! Tbh you probably felt happy about the idea of marrying your best friend bcos they’re your best friend (if you get me haha!!) I’m the same around my friends too...all my friends have always been really close and touchy feely, like always giving hugs and cuddling and stuff and i’ve been struggling with that recently ! But i’m confident we’ll all get there x
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- 6y
You put it perfectly , it really is like being trapped in your own head ?? it sounds like you know that you’re attracted to guys, but you still worry that you’re attracted to girls too. You are still the person you were before you started worrying about this, but the anxiety has taken over and blurred the lines so much to the point where it’s hard for you to tell who you are. I know it’s hard. Do you have anyone else to talk to about this ?
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- 6y
My personal problem is that i’ve never really been overly bothered about sex genuinely, I think i’m somewhere on the asexual spectrum (maybe demi-sexual), so I think that heightens my OCD and anxieties. I do but don’t really openly talk about it because no one really understands
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- 6y
@mariaxx I think you summed it up perfectly. We get these fears because they don’t represent us or our desires , and that’s why they’re so strong and intrusive. But it’s great that we can all talk on here and be understood :)
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- 6y
@ellsss Yeah , going back all the way to your childhood is very difficult and you spend so much time on the smallest details of it. But I’m sure you know that childhood is a period of major development , so it’s hard to label yourself just from one thing. And also , false memories can come up because of OCD. We don’t remember as much as we think we do ;) I’m so sorry about the panic attacks.
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- 6y
Anytime , you’ll never be alone??and I think looking back that far was one of the worst parts for me tbh. It really is difficult
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- Date posted
- 6y
Unfortunately I still have it ?? but the theme has changed now :/
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@ellsss
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This is me exactly as well
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- 25w
Has anyone experienced where you love woman everything about them, even to the point where you still can get erections watching normal porn, lesbian porn etc. but you find your self still admiring a good looking man. I’ve went through the groinal responses when seeing a man but honestly after watching porn and realizing it’s not about sex it went away. On the other hand even when there’s a male and a female in a picture I can’t stop looking at the male and judging, but the minute they’re naked I’m fine and looking at the woman. I started watching porn at a very young age so I’m wondering do I only sexualize woman and admire the man so in everyday life I don’t see her as beautiful because she’s not naked ? I understand as a straight male I can still think guys are attractive but why do I constantly notice them more than women? I also can admire and see when a girl is beautiful in the face but then if a dude that’s more attractive than me pops up in staring at him. Has anyone experience this?
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- 15w
I really need help understanding what I’m going through. For a long time now, I’ve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental ‘pull’ toward certain women — it’s not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I can’t explain — sometimes I think it’s just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: “You felt something, so you must be gay,” or “You’re hiding something.” I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they don’t feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself — I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didn’t. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I don’t want to lie to myself or live in denial, but I’m exhausted. It feels like I’m being mentally forced to feel something that isn’t mine. I’m 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? I’m so scared that I’ll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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- 5w
I feel that I’ve come on extremely well. I still can’t accept uncertainty. My attraction to the opposite gender (females) comes back but doesn’t last how it used to too. I feel that excitement, thoughts like “she’s well fit” then a horrible depressed feeling and those voices saying “but you don’t like females anymore…” The false attraction towards same gender (male) isn’t as bad as it was. It used to be every single male, old young, big, small, even voices, cartoons and so on. Now it’s a quick spike when I see a male followed by disgusted, I still pull a horrible face and I shake depending on how bad the thoughts/ feelings. This HOCD/SOOCD happened 14 years ago but not as severe as this time round. Then just went for 14 years. Has anyone been through the same and got through it??
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