❗️HUGE HOCD TRIGGER ❗️ I‘m having a panic attack right now. I saw a lesbian who said sometimes it can take a lifetime to figure out that you are homosexual and that the easiest way to figure out if you are gay is to see who you fall in love with. And then she said something that triggered my HOCD so, so much. She said „When I was a teenager the thought of having sex with a woman made me cringe, but whenever I kissed a man it was dull and when I kissed a woman it was really interesting.“ That’s the end for me. I‘m losing hope.

My “bullshit-o-meter” is going off. This honestly sounds like propaganda spread to over exaggerate that stuff. That genuinely doesn’t make any sense. Logically, it’s so unbelievably stupid. So she cringed at the thought of lesbian sex when she’s a lesbian? Where does that make sense? Where? If she was being honest it probably didn’t make her cringe. She probably found it appealing or is making the whole story up to like I said before over exaggerate this to a degree in which doesn’t need to be exaggerated at all. This genuinely doesn’t make sense.

Yeah I’m with ‘TheReptileCyka’ on this!! People who are gay and in denial- enjoy the thoughts! They think it’s beautiful! People who are gay and out do not give it a second thought at all! Just how I know I’m a girl with blue eyes! I don’t give those a second thought! we just have to keep reminding ourselves this

Advice- it makes me question it too, but before this I knew how much I loved my boyfriend- and I don’t ever want to leave him! even if unwanted thoughts pop in your head about being gay or with someone- just remember- you don’t want to leave your boyfriend! That’s ocd for you! it tries to turn something so simple into something dangerous! We just need to learn to accept the uncertainty and the ocd bully will get bored and it will leave us all

Well that’s HER experience. Doesn’t have to be yours. Ppl who are in the LGBTQIA+ community have all kinds of sexual awakenings but that doesn’t make them the same for everyone. So her kiss w a man was dull. To her it’s bc she’s gay. To a straight woman maybe it’s that there were no sparks. No chemistry. She didn’t like how the kiss went. She didn’t really truly have feelings for the guy. Anything can make kisses dull. Being gay isn’t the only reason. You’re fine. ;)

I am terrified too. I’m avoiding it incase it doesn’t feel like I want it to. I hate this so so so much.

Gosh, now I’m wondering if I’m in love with my boyfriend

For the girl who said that, she’s not the spokesperson for everyone who realized that they were gay later in life. Because of OCD, we tend to latch onto anything related to our anxiety and immediately apply it to our own lives, despite it being the polar opposite. But hey, it may happen, it may not happen. We have to work on accepting uncertainty without looking for an answer. It’ll either come to us or we’ll just be comfortable with not knowing.

I‘m 19teen and I still haven’t had my first kiss now I fear that when I have it and it feels „dull“ I become lesbian or think that I‘m lesbian ?