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My “bullshit-o-meter” is going off. This honestly sounds like propaganda spread to over exaggerate that stuff. That genuinely doesn’t make any sense. Logically, it’s so unbelievably stupid. So she cringed at the thought of lesbian sex when she’s a lesbian? Where does that make sense? Where? If she was being honest it probably didn’t make her cringe. She probably found it appealing or is making the whole story up to like I said before over exaggerate this to a degree in which doesn’t need to be exaggerated at all. This genuinely doesn’t make sense.
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Yeah I’m with ‘TheReptileCyka’ on this!! People who are gay and in denial- enjoy the thoughts! They think it’s beautiful! People who are gay and out do not give it a second thought at all! Just how I know I’m a girl with blue eyes! I don’t give those a second thought! we just have to keep reminding ourselves this
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Advice- it makes me question it too, but before this I knew how much I loved my boyfriend- and I don’t ever want to leave him! even if unwanted thoughts pop in your head about being gay or with someone- just remember- you don’t want to leave your boyfriend! That’s ocd for you! it tries to turn something so simple into something dangerous! We just need to learn to accept the uncertainty and the ocd bully will get bored and it will leave us all
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Well that’s HER experience. Doesn’t have to be yours. Ppl who are in the LGBTQIA+ community have all kinds of sexual awakenings but that doesn’t make them the same for everyone. So her kiss w a man was dull. To her it’s bc she’s gay. To a straight woman maybe it’s that there were no sparks. No chemistry. She didn’t like how the kiss went. She didn’t really truly have feelings for the guy. Anything can make kisses dull. Being gay isn’t the only reason. You’re fine. ;)
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I am terrified too. I’m avoiding it incase it doesn’t feel like I want it to. I hate this so so so much.
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Gosh, now I’m wondering if I’m in love with my boyfriend
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For the girl who said that, she’s not the spokesperson for everyone who realized that they were gay later in life. Because of OCD, we tend to latch onto anything related to our anxiety and immediately apply it to our own lives, despite it being the polar opposite. But hey, it may happen, it may not happen. We have to work on accepting uncertainty without looking for an answer. It’ll either come to us or we’ll just be comfortable with not knowing.
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I‘m 19teen and I still haven’t had my first kiss now I fear that when I have it and it feels „dull“ I become lesbian or think that I‘m lesbian ?
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- 23w
I watched the trailer for the movie “Am I Ok?” and got completely triggered. Basically a 32 yo woman discovers she’s a lesbian seemingly out of nowhere. I was triggers and did some research (bad idea) and apparently some people who are gay have never had romantic or sexual interest in people of the same sex until one spontaneous moment of discovery. Now I’m worried that this could be me!! I’ve never had a long term relationship, have had crushes and fantasies but back out when things get too close for me. I do prefer my little fantasy world guy but now I’m wondering if maybe I missed something and am in denial, even if I didn’t know it.
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Hey everyone, I’m reaching out because I’ve been going through one of the hardest mental spirals of my life, and I’m hoping someone can relate or shed light on what’s happening to me. About 4 months ago, I accidentally came across a trans porn scene. It didn’t do much at the time, but later it triggered this overwhelming intrusive thought: “What if I’m gay?” Since then, it’s been absolute hell. I’ve always been into women—emotionally, sexually, everything. I’ve been in a long-term relationship with a girl I love deeply. But after that moment, my brain started spiraling into nonstop analysis. I began checking how I felt around men, whether I felt attraction, whether I was in denial, whether I was lying to myself. Literally everything became a test. I got stuck in this loop: • A thought pops in → panic • Try to solve it → brief relief • Another thought → worse panic • Repeat. At times, it got so bad I couldn’t feel anything at all—toward my girlfriend, toward women, toward myself. I started doubting everything. Some days, I feel emotionally flat, like I’ve lost my personality. Other days, I wake up with a full-body jolt of “truth” like “I’m definitely gay”—only for it to fade into numbness again. I’ve also noticed that I get short bursts of peace when I stop reacting, but then the fear comes back louder, like “See? Now you’re accepting it. That means it’s true.” Therapy hasn’t helped much so far—it felt more like general counseling. They told me to sit with the thoughts, but didn’t clarify if this was OCD, identity questioning, or trauma. That just made it worse because now I’m back to thinking “What if I’m just rejecting my truth?” I’m exhausted. I’ve lost connection to everything I used to love. • I want to love my girl again the way I used to • I want to feel desire without overthinking • I want to trust myself again I’m not looking for reassurance—I just want to know if anyone else has gone through something like this, and if this sounds like HOCD or identity OCD. Thanks for reading.
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I really need help understanding what I’m going through. For a long time now, I’ve been struggling with thoughts and feelings about women that confuse and scare me. Sometimes I feel this strange emotional or mental ‘pull’ toward certain women — it’s not exactly sexual, and not clearly romantic either, but it feels like something, and it triggers deep anxiety. When I see a beautiful woman or a WLW (woman-loving-woman) couple, I feel something that I can’t explain — sometimes I think it’s just admiration or aesthetic appreciation, but OCD keeps telling me: “You felt something, so you must be gay,” or “You’re hiding something.” I get stuck in endless loops, trying to analyze these moments and label them. Even when I feel physical or emotional reactions, they don’t feel natural or aligned with who I am. They feel like a reaction to the idea of women, not real attraction. I try to be honest with myself — I even told a friend I might be bisexual at some point, just to test if that felt more comfortable. But it didn’t. It made things worse, and I felt like I lost touch with who I am. I don’t want to lie to myself or live in denial, but I’m exhausted. It feels like I’m being mentally forced to feel something that isn’t mine. I’m 14, and I understand that things might still be developing, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve always been drawn to men, and never naturally wanted women that way. Still, I keep doubting everything. Is this real attraction or OCD feeding false feelings and thoughts? Can OCD create emotional or mental sensations that feel like desire? I’m so scared that I’ll lose myself, or find out something I never wanted. I just want peace and to feel like myself again.
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