false attraction

I’m not a psychologist, but the way my psych explained it is it’s all to do with what you want, and usually what you want doesn’t give you obsessive anxiety inducing thoughts. Now that’s problematic for an ocd sufferer, as our brain goes “but what if I do want it?” “Omg does it feel like I want these thoughts?” “I must want these thoughts cos they feel so real?!” And off to the anxiety races we go. Now - what I dare say people will tell you is that you need to somehow be ok with not figuring it out. How do you do that? Stuffed if I know as I’m still trying my best to practice.

But you have to live with uncertainty. There is no easy way to achieve this. I practice by reminding myself in any way that I really can't be sure of anything. Certainty is a lie. Therefore, live by your values, not your thoughts. Let your values and beliefs guide you. Live with uncertainty because in reality we can never satisfy OCD certainty as it doesn't exist.

I say if you’re not sure just asses what you like about that person sometimes its just limerence or you convincing and putting in patters from other people that arent yours. So just ask yourself what do i like about this person? Are they my type