My mom is driving me crazy

When I talk with mother she always says things make me angry ans I get anger attacks and I’ve told her many times to not do that but she doesn’t stop, so I limited my contact with her even though we are at the same house because I can’t handle her anymore it’s maki my mental health and OCD worse. Today she told “why don’t you sit with me and talk with anymore? If you kept behaving that way I won’t pay attention to what I eat and I’ll get diabetes, screw it” Because the Doctor told her she’s so close to get diabetes and she knows I’m so scared about her health and safety so she suddenly used this against me

pothos0_0

Date posted: 1y

I’m so sorry that she is doing this to you right now, you shouldn’t have to be going through this :( just keep in mind that she is an adult, and only she is responsible for the actions she takes. NOT YOU! You are not responsible for her actions. If she decides to give herself diabetes out of pettiness, that is all on her, NOT ON YOU! That was fully her choice and I hope she realizes the harm that she is causing you soon. Stay strong through this! 🩵

lyn lyn

Date posted: 1y

@pothos0_0 Thank you for telling me this 🥹 I really needed someone else’s opinion because I started doubting myself if I’m actually being bad

pothos0_0

Date posted: 1y

@lyn lyn You’re really really not!!! I’m so sorry she is putting you through this! I hope you have some places to rest outside of your home if you’re living with your mother and I hope you find some rest from all of this. Please remember too that just because they’re family, doesn’t mean they need to be in our lives. Do what is best for you and your mental health 🩵

Maisa

Date posted: 1y

I know you’re going through a tough situation and it’s not easy. The truth is your mum probably just wants to talk about her diabetes which is why she may be using it against you. OCD is hard enough. It’s really hard. I know it is so I wish for you ease during this. If OCD has taught me one thing is that it’s compassion to others because ppl can’t see how much your struggling so what if she’s struggling alone too. Talk to her about your OCD. Clear the misunderstanding and allow her to open up about the diabetes. Be each others support system. It’s the only way you’ll both get through it.

lyn lyn

Date posted: 1y

@Maisa Actually no… It makes me sad whenever people find excuses for mothers even when they’re clearly are being abusive and passive aggressive Actually my mother doesn’t like talking about her health and the possibility of her getting diabetes, whenever I try to talk with her about this topic to make sure that she doesn’t get diabetes, she gets really mad cuz she doesn’t like it when others tell what she should stop eating, so I was shocked when she brought up her diabetes suddenly just to force me to sit with her, this is clearly manipulation, it’s not about her wanting to open about her diabetes, she just used it against me cuz she knows it’s gonna trigger my OCD and make feel scared and guilty and go and sit with her cuz she’s lonely all the time, and no, she will never be my support system cuz she knows my mental illness struggles yet she always uses it against me for her own sake, I tried so hard to have a healthy relationship with her and to become her friend but it’s impossible if all she does is trying to get what she wants through manipulation without considering my mental struggles, she even once lied about her sickness when she had covid and got me infected 🙃 she didn’t really care and was laughing about it and I got really really mad yet she played the victim even in this situation, I can never trust her anymore even if I wanted to I know she’s my mother and I should support her whatsoever, but my mental health is more important

Türkiye Için!

Date posted: 1y

@lyn lyn Well, that's a narcissist.

ihavehope8937

Date posted: 22w

mom feelings

I feel super sad and depressed i'm tired of feeling so scared it's really changing me. My mom is a pretty difficult person she's a borderline narcissist. Over the years our relationship has changed a lot and recently i've been pretty hard on her because i feel so angry that she's not able to support me mentally in the ways that i need. I see now that she's mentally ill herself and i should be nicer and more understanding. she doesn't know better and she's trying her best. she was just a girl once and i feel bad that i said she lacks a motherly instinct. i love her a lot and i love seeing her laugh and be herself. she's super beautiful and unique and she deserved so much more out of life. I think my ocd makes me super angry towards the people in my life because i know i deserve the love i give. I would be so willing to have a really deep loving conversation with the people close to me yet i get such surface level support.

Anonymous

Date posted: 21w

I feel so humiliated

Yesterday I had a panic attack from OCD fears. I live alone, so in my panic I called my mum just to get some emotional support. It did not go well. I was asking for reassurnce to much and basically she got annoyed with me and started to chastise me. She said I was being ridiculous and accused me of just making up my symptoms to emotionally manipulate her. She even went as far as threatening to call the police on me to have me sectioned. I feel so humiliated. I know that I can be annoying during my panic attacks, and that my OCD puts a massive toll on my familiy. But I don't want to manipulate people. Now, I feel like an abuser. In these moments, seeing how much my weakness makes my family suffer makes me just want to not be here anymore.

Young adults with OCD

flowerpetals

Date posted: 16w

very upset

my mom has been on this adhd kick where she thinks everyone has adhd instead of what they actually have because apparently it can present itself as anxiety. well i told her i was taking prozac because that’s something she needs to know since i still live at home. and she’s fine with it because it’s my choice. however, she comes into my room because she sent me a video about adhd. in the video, at the end, it says “girls with adhd may develop perfectionist or obsessive compulsive tendencies.” THEN, she has the audacity to tell me my compulsions didn’t start to show until after high school when that isn’t true at all. i just never talked about it, but of course she doesn’t believe me. i just feel so invalidated because after all of the hell i’ve been through, to be told i don’t have what i most certainly am positive i do have is atrocious. i would lose my mind if i was told i didn’t have ocd because of the intrusive thoughts i get that make me feel like a terrible person. i feel like being told that sets me back so far and makes me want to thought spiral a bit. i’m so upset.

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