How can I break the cycle

My girlfriend and I have been together for a long time and in the beginning my OCD was under control. Recently it’s been getting worse and worse and it has something new to hold on to. It holds on to her and being the best that I can be for her. And I never want to hurt her feelings and even when I don’t OCD tells me that maybe there is some way I messed up and eventually enough will be enough and I’ll lose the love of my life. She’s patient and understands OCD, can anyone tell me if they’ve had a similar experience and if they have been able to break the cycle?

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 43w ago

I can understand what you are going though and for me there are times where my ocd is mild and other times where it gets severe. My husband is very patient and understanding with me, we’ve been together for over 4 years and trust me you will be able to break your ocd cycle. I haven’t yet but I’m going to start treatment because I know it’s possible.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 43w ago

I relate to this a lot. I feel like my husband is confused because I didn’t cycle this bad at the beginning — but idk about you, but I also masked much better and did not know this about myself? Also, this kind of relationship OCD I feel like seems like just being a stellar thoughtful partner at first until relationship progress and then, with more vulnerability, it becomes very hard to maintain

Username: OCDVICOCDVIC

Date posted: 43w ago

I have harm ocd and its latched on my fiance and i know that horrible feeling that you get thinking on what if i say something or do something to hurt them and all i can say is just let time do its thing and keep trying to not to put any meaning to the thoughts just ignore them. Act like you dont care when a intrusive thought come in.

Username: her

Date posted: 5y ago

are any of you in a relationship and if so how does your OCD effect it? My partner has been my sole support since the beginning of my struggles but recently she’s losing hope in the process of getting better. I don’t want to lose my soul mate because of my OCD

Username: emme

Date posted: 5y ago

Hi there everyone, I’m really struggling with obsessive thoughts over my relationship with my girlfriend. Everything was going so well for the first couple months and one day I started doubting - ever since then I’ve been trying to combat thoughts that our relationship is doomed to fail. I used to love my girlfriend, now I keep getting intrusive anxious thoughts about breaking up with her and scrutinising her appearance. I spent a few years struggling before with HOCD but I’m free of that now, now I feel I’m heading into a spiral of obsession over whether on not this relationship is right. I don’t want my girlfriend to suffer and loose faith in me whilst I act all weird around her. How do I stay present to her and cope through it? Thanks

Username: LirLavi

Date posted: 4y ago

I feel like im in hell. I feel so bad and i feel so doomed. For 1.5 years i fighting with ocd, mostly pure o. 3 2.5 months ago it start to attack my relationship. She is the most precious thing in my life and i understand thats why the icd attack it. Im struggle with maintain love, attraction, emotions the most. In the last days i started to feel very numb and its "connect" me to the idea i dont love her and not attracted to her. It made me to be even more scared to my life when i noticed that ive short breath while kissing her, because im so scared amd ashamed that i kiss her while ive got all of those thoughts. I noticed that i check my emotion stability toward her which make it worse. Also, i read on wikipedia about pure o and they wrote there about that pure o relationship ocd is in most cases lead to break up and it triggered me so much. I dont want to loose her, never, no matter how much im suffer. She gave and giving me the powet to cope with this demon. I know its all ocd and i try to live my life without ocd and my love in my conor and something teying to hurt us and its makes me crazy.

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