ROCD? Please read 🙏

I’m so terrified that my feelings are not a product of ROCD and are actually real. They feel real, I think they are, and it makes me mad because I just want to be in a happy relationship but then I have a really real thought that picks apart every aspect of my partner: what he looks like, how he sounds, how he acts, how weird he is, his intelligence, his emotional state, etc. recently it’s been really sad because I feel critical towards him doing normal things like feeling exited, or trying to be funny, or making jokes, or even him being vulnerable and crying. I feel so judgemental and it feels so real, like that’s how I really feel, and maybe I do think he’s a little weird but I don’t want that to stop me from loving him. And I feel like it’s bad for be to think and feel all these things. I don’t want to let these thoughts take over my life and ruin all the growth that him and I have done together, but it honestly feel like that’s how I really feel some days, and idk if it’s ROCD.

Username: SB93SB93

Date posted: 38w ago

I have experienced all fears you are having and the crushing guilt because of those things but remember you are experiencing all of these things because of how much he means to you OCD latches on to the things we care about the most. I’m sure he has those same passing thoughts about you but he doesn’t latch on to them because he doesn’t have OCD just try to remember your brain is perceiving those thoughts as threats instead of just a silly passing thought

Username: Hope309Hope309

Date posted: 38w ago

Cute going through this girl! I try to remember that relationships aren’t just a feeling of love but a CHOICE of love. I choose him! Remember you choose him too!

Username: Croissantcat Croissantcat

Date posted: 38w ago

I have these thoughts too when my rocd is tiggered!! I think sometimes just knowing that these are common thoughts and worries with rocd can help you find peace in knowing it’s truly just the ocd. I always try to remember that if your feelings were true, you wouldn’t panic and obsess over them. You would just know them to be true. It’s the obsessive part that you’re going through right now that is the ocd.

Username: redbudredbud

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 38w ago

@Croissantcat I needed this tonight

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 11w ago

I relate so much

Username: geochristina

Date posted: 2y ago

ROCD

Please does anyone else have the same thoughts and feelings as I do who suffer with ROCD (bearing in mind I love my boyfriend, he’s the kindest most loving boy and I love him with all my heart) we spend all day laughing with eachother! I’m constantly like: You don’t love him, this isn’t right with him, you’re horrible for stringing him along, break up with him, break up with him, did you ever actually love him, you’re probably a lesbian, you don’t find him attractive, there’s nothing between you two Then in other moments when I’m not feeling this I literally could cry with how amazing he is! 😢🙈

Relationship OCD

Username: anonymous1963

Date posted: 44w ago

Rocd vs reality

How do people recognize the difference between relationship ocd intrusive thoughts and real thoughts about your relationship? I have been in a relationship for about a year, it’s my first long-term relationship and the healthiest, I am almost 20 years old, and I believe I have rocd (I haven’t been diagnosed but it’s pretty clear to me). The main thoughts I get are “what if I’ll lose feelings for my bf?, what if I don’t love him?, what if I’m gonna break his heart?” (it’s never about if he’s cheating on me or anything like that. He is a really great boyfriend and the best person to ever walk into my life, he isn’t toxic or bad in any way towards me or the relationship). Usually these thoughts occur before my period (luteal phase/pms) but I’m on day 6 of my period and I got these thoughts, which usually isn’t the case as I’ve said before. So I went into a spiral cus I believed that since I got these thoughts at a different time in my cycle, they must be true. Deep down I know I love my boyfriend so much, it’s just so hard to navigate whether or not these thoughts are just fake rocd thoughts or what I’m really thinking. Can anyone else relate?

Username: Anonymous_co...

Date posted: 38w ago

ROCD or am I lying to myself?

How am I to know whether I have ROCD or if I should leave. I keep having critical and negative thoughts about everything my partner says and does and the way he looks and acts and his personality: literally everything! But I know he’s not the problem, I am, because he’s not toxic or bad. So how do I know if it’s ROCD or if Im trying to force myself to like the wrong person? I’m so lost and confused. He’s such an amazing person and I don’t want to hurt him. I just wish these thoughts would go away and I could see him through rose coloured glasses. But I’m feeling so discouraged and getting tired of trying.

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