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Take a deep breath and step back for a second. You’re going down an endless spiral of questions that are never going to lead to certainty. They will lead you to your fear, sure, but not to truth. And that’s because the kind of certainty you’re looking for doesn’t exist and especially with OCD. It’s okay that the thoughts don’t make you anxious anymore. That’s a natural step everyone takes with this theme. And that need to come out and confess: that’s a compulsion. And it’s also a very natural and common part of this theme. You said you want to live and not analyze, that’s a great instinct. And you can do that. The thoughts and feelings will still be there (for now) but you don’t have to spend your time going down these thought spirals. When you have a moment where you think you’re attracted to someone of the same sex, just label it, “I’m having a feeling that makes me think I’m attracted to this person.” But feelings are not facts. And feelings are fleeting. Let it be and let it pass. Refocus on what you were doing before the thought and keep living it. Stop analyzing each thought and feeling. Just feel it and let it go.
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This helped me so much. This has been happening to me lately. This whole theme. Thanks. I feel less alone and uncomfortable.
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I also had all the answers before OCD showed up one night and turned my life upside down.
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I hate that the simple moments dont feel innocent anymore like when im just home with my mom i think ablut thoughts i dont want to have. I just want the pure me back. Im not saying that flr example gay people aint pure but for me the thoughts poisoned my mind because i mever had these thoughts and theyre so triggerin. I just want myself back because its so hard living with myself when im uncomfortable all the time and i cant for a second not think about this. Thats why every tiny moment jn my life is ruined because every time i do something even a small thing i think kf this. Ifs always on my mind. I cant seriously be focused on soemthing elde its always here. I just need a moment where i live in the moment eand not always analyze things
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Ditto! Happened overnight!
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Both yes
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Does hocd make you guys feel like u look gay or act gay? I feel like that all the time now.
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Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
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im so scared that this is just denial and that im actuall gay. idk what to do anymore i need help. its just constant anxiety in my chest and i hate it. is there anything i can do to help?
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