hr247
- Date posted
- 1y
no boner
i was with my gf yesterday, we held hands when walking, she even sat on me at one point but i never got a boner is this normal? i always used to get boners in situations like this before
saul_todaysaul_today
- Date posted
- 1y
anxiety, fatigue, hunger, thirst, depression, and certain medications used to treat OCD (like Zoloft) can all cause things to be slower to react or need more stimulation than usual to get aroused. If you were anxious with her, then that’s definitely normal!
Michael.1993Michael.1993
- User type
- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
It’s so normal man. I love my wife and I know I’m attracted to her, but sometimes I have difficulty with certain things sexually because of my medication/anxiety etc. This is another way OCD is trying to get at you.
hr247hr247
- Date posted
- 1y
@Michael.1993 i’m not even on any meds man
Michael.1993Michael.1993
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
@ocdposting Doesn’t matter, it can just be anxiety as well, or you’re just not in the mood. The meds are just my personal experience
freiafreia
- Date posted
- 1y
You don't need to get a boner all the time. My bf sometime tells me, he is not in the mood or his body just is not in the mood. And that is fine. And as a female I can really understand that. I have like a few days a month were arousal is easy for me. The rest of the time it is not .
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