no boner

i was with my gf yesterday, we held hands when walking, she even sat on me at one point but i never got a boner is this normal? i always used to get boners in situations like this before

Sexual Orientation OCD

saul_today

Date posted: 1y

anxiety, fatigue, hunger, thirst, depression, and certain medications used to treat OCD (like Zoloft) can all cause things to be slower to react or need more stimulation than usual to get aroused. If you were anxious with her, then that’s definitely normal!

Michael.1993

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

It’s so normal man. I love my wife and I know I’m attracted to her, but sometimes I have difficulty with certain things sexually because of my medication/anxiety etc. This is another way OCD is trying to get at you.

hr247

Date posted: 1y

@Michael.1993 i’m not even on any meds man

Michael.1993

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 1y

@ocdposting Doesn’t matter, it can just be anxiety as well, or you’re just not in the mood. The meds are just my personal experience

freia

Date posted: 1y

You don't need to get a boner all the time. My bf sometime tells me, he is not in the mood or his body just is not in the mood. And that is fine. And as a female I can really understand that. I have like a few days a month were arousal is easy for me. The rest of the time it is not .

MisterNegative

Date posted: 23w

Sex and erection

I know that anxiety and OCD can affect you in a lot of ways and I know it can affect your sex life. I was having sex with this chick about 4 days ago and everything about was amazing. it was a random hookup. But I got tired quick and got so worried about meeting certain expectations during intercourse I lost my erection part way through and couldn't match her pace and that felt honestly embarrassing and debilitating. Like there is no way I should be not keep it up with this chick. But I am aware anxiety can destroy performance in intercourse and I look at porn and notice other guys maintain erections forever without constant stimulation. A few seconds with stimulation and I lose mine. But I am been like that pretty much forever. Do I have misconception about how that works or is something wrong with me cause the doubt sucks. The girl even said that it was weird how I got soft after not that long. But she tried to be supportive for the most part but it felt terrible. If i am not flexing by pelvic muscles it feels like I can't maintain it.

Anonymous

Date posted: 17w

Having a erection while simultaneously having bad memories of past actions

Hey guys I'm 17 years old I had experience with OCD I looked trans pornography and femboy stuff I'm straight I didn't jerk off to it I was really only looking at it in the past I have but for some reason I just felt like looking at it and when I did I did experience arousal not only that while I had a boner I simultaneously was thinking of memories and bad actions I had in 4th grade with another boy I myself not a homosexual I was a kid I did something with another boy I regret it I had that thought in my head lingering there in my head but I noticed pre ejaculation and now I feel anxiety because now it feels like I was intrigued by the thought it feels like it is it was probably to the video visual stimulus but it's hard I didn't jerk off to it at all I was really just looking idk what to do it feels like I did experience it to the video but also my thoughts say to the thought idk what to do can someone shed light on this

Glassbox74743

Date posted: 9w

Help

My arousal levels are just nothing they use to be I love my girl so much but I’m worried I turned gay and gonna have to leave her I don’t know what to do but I feel like she’s gonna notice my lack of arousal and question. I feel like I’m just gonna have to leave her until I get this sorted

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