Anybody else have obsessive ruminations about their partner being a “moral” person? It doesn’t relate to God or a higher power but rather being obsessed about my partner not causing harm to others/ fighting for social good.
YES!! This is a big focus of my ocd and I always feel like it doesn’t fit neatly into an OCD subtype. I had a big flare up this past week because of my husband saying something that really triggered me. And I feel awful because he was being vulnerable about painful parts of his past and his mental health journey, and my mind twisted it into an ocd spiral. It’s rough. I’ve been trying to lean into thinking “maybe, maybe not” when I get intrusive thoughts or worries about whether or not he would do or say or think a thing I think is immoral. It’s really hard, but that’s been helping me loosen the hold of ocd a bit. Hang in there; it’s hard but you’re not alone, and you’ve got the tools to handle this!
Wow this is amazing that I’m not alone! Thank you for that advice. You’re right about it not fitting neatly into an OCD subtype. Sometimes I see it as a mixture between ROCD and Perfectionism OCD maybe.
i totally get where you're coming from. obsessing over whether our partners align with our moral compass can be really exhausting and isolating. you're not alone in feeling this way, and it's okay to find this aspect of ocd challenging. have you heard about "unstuck", an ai-powered therapy tool specifically for ocd? check it out at unstuckmyocd.com. it's been a game-changer for me this past month, and i think it could offer you some relief too. another member here recommended it, and i just wish i'd known about it sooner! 🌟
I’ve been struggling with relationship OCD and differentiating between what is an intrusive thought and what is a real doubt. I was really happy with my partner then I got one aggressive thought that I didn’t love him and this spiralled into noticing all his flaws. I struggle being around him because I feel a huge sense of guilt that these thoughts even come into my head and I cannot figure out if this is my brain lying to me or this is how I feel. It’s really impacting a relationship that is so important to me.
Does Rocd make it nearly impossible to forgive your partner for anything. Whether it is big or small? My situation is so gray area where there’s something my bf did that I feel like I’m not okay with but he did this when we were first dating (not bf and gf yet). I ruminate all day about it bc I don’t want to lose him and see a future with him and I know he loves me so purely. But I also feel like I’m going against my morals here bc I do feel betrayed by what he did. I try to forgive him by diminishing my feelings and telling myself “he never did anything physical with a girl or went out with another girl while we were together” but still feel so hurt that he even messaged another girl while us dating. He’s given me an explanation and has proved how much I can trust him so I’m just completely stuck on whether I should forgive something I know I would’ve never done to him or leave him even though the only thing he’s done wrong was before us becoming official. I’ve broken up with him countless times over this situation bc I feel like I “can’t live with it” but then immediately when we break up I want him back and I kind of understand his explanation and reasoning. I don’t know what is ocd and what is my real intuition anymore. I genuinely think it’s both. Are any of you guys in the same boat?
Currently I have several different OCD fears that pop up throughout the week depending on the situation. I've noticed a commonality between all of them are the fears relating to memory/false memory. Today is the ROCD struggle I've been dealing with. I know OCD has been trying this on me lately because of how much I love my spouse. They are my absolute best friend and she's my world. I value our marriage and friendship more than anything. OCD has latched onto one specific female coworker. And I don't even know why because even if I were single I wouldn't be into her. Even still, OCD makes me think I've cheated on my wife every time I'm alone with this coworker at work. Always starts as a what if, followed by imagery, followed by feelings that I must've actually done something and can't remember it. Usually fearing I've kissed her. It hurts because I know I'd never do that to my wife and I love her so much...the idea of losing her kills me, especially if it were the result of something I did. Just wanted to vent. Feel free to share your experiences or vents as well
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