How can you tell the difference between relationship ocd doubts and actual doubts in a relationship? How can I tell if it’s my ocd telling me I’m not in the right relationship, or my actual feelings telling me that? Any tips? It’s so frustrating to tune out my ocd and hear my gut feeling.
I have no clue lol. My assumption would be that we would have to get over our ROCD in order to be able to see our true feelings.
@Anonymous That could be… but there must be another way to distinguish! It’s hard to tell sometimes.
I also don’t really know, but I think if the doubts are followed by compulsions then it’s ocd. When you have the thought “am I in the right relationship?” what are the thoughts or things you do right after having that thought?
@Garlicbread7 I think mostly reassurance seeking and excessive confessing. The way I obsess over it just also doesn’t feel like normal doubt.
@Anna9 I get that, I have the same compulsions. Funnily enough, worrying about if it’s ocd or not, and posting about it here may be ocd in action (I do the same thing)! I am not going to reassure you, because that’s what your brain wants! 😆 I hope that this distress lessens for you ❤️ if you need someone to talk through it with, I’m here!
Hi everyone, I recently had a chat with a coach on Instagram about my relationship anxiety, and they said I probably don’t have ROCD — because what I’m experiencing sounds more like real doubts, not intrusive thoughts. In her opinion I have signs of real doubts: – There are understandable reasons, like lack of sexual desire – The thoughts show up in specific situations – Talking about the issue or seeing changes in the relationship brings relief They also asked: “Would you still have these doubts if you knew for sure that your relationship was healthy?” And now I’m just stuck. And now I’m wondering: am I just in denial? Or is this still OCD? Have any of you been through something similar — where someone told you your doubts are real, and it made things worse? Thanks for reading. I’d really appreciate hearing how others have navigated this.
Lately my ROCD has been flaring up, making it difficult to even be around my partner. I’m having so many troubling thoughts with the one that bugs me most being, “maybe this isn’t my OCD, maybe I’m just in a bad relationship and I’m trying to cover it up and blame it on OCD”. This thought really scares me because there are valid doubts in my relationship but my boyfriend and I have openly talked about them and are trying to work through. My OCD won’t take that as an option tho. It makes me feel like I need to be 100% certain that these things can NEVER happen again or else we need to break up immediately. So anything he says in that moment about trying to do better, my OCD will not trust anything he says and just wait until the next “bad thing” happens. When I continuously bring these things up to my boyfriend even tho nothing has happened between these conversations, it exhausts him making it feel like he can never do enough. I feel so bad because I know it’s just my OCD getting in the way. But then that thought creeps in saying I can’t trust him because I need to protect myself. It’s just an ongoing cycle that is so tiring. I don’t even know what I want anymore. We are very opposite when it comes to emotions. I am very in tune and very emotionally intelligent, and he is not. He is the opposite. I do recognize that my anxious attachment style may be hard for him too but I can’t stop thinking about all of his flaws and all of the things he needs to do to make our relationship better. It makes me feel like I’m the only one putting in effort when in reality that is not true. But my OCD does make me feel like he doesn’t really love me or want to be with me and that he feels forced to be with me or do things for me. It makes me feel like him being with me is like a chore. Can anyone relate? My OCD just makes me feel like I can’t trust anything he says to make our relationship better.
how can you tell the difference between rocd and a real thought you should act on?
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