lyn lyn
- Date posted
- 1y
Losing loved ones
How to deal with anxiety and obsessive thoughts about my loved ones travelling to a dangerous place for 3 months? They haven’t travelled yet but I’m so scared of losing them already
SitwithitSitwithit
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
I didn't let my partner go anywhere for 5 hrs. I unknowingly controlled him &, had to hear from him a ton of times to alleviate my anxiety/ fears. What I realized is NOONE knows what can happen at any given time. I had to literally give up the idea of thinking that my loved ones are ever 100% safe. My partner now goes skiing & when I think all the horrific thoughts about what COULD happen I talk back to my OCD and say we'll it could. And I'm not going to worry about it till it does. It is very hard. Dont think its a walk in the park. So you for example could talk back to your OCD and say (warning this could be triggering) well ya know yes OCD that could happen. The plane could crash and it would be horrible and I'm not going to worry about it right now. And yes this or that could happen and I would be devastated and I'm still not going to worry about it now. I had to understand that I could lose anyone I care about at any given moment and it fucking sucks but the alternative is for me to MISS out on my life and those precious minutes with my partner. I find saying things like shut up OCD or yes that could happen fuck you OCD ALOUD really helps me keep things in perspective plus it feels go to yell at it.
alissaaalissaa
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
@Anonymous Do you ever start to panic when you realize things that will for sure happen some day? For me I always have the horrible thought hit me that I know my parents will get old and die in my lifetime (assuming I’m lucky enough to live a long life). Like, it’s not an “if” at this point, so my OCD reminds me that ERP doesn’t actually change this fact and I know my fear will happen some day. Idk, its discouraging me lately because ERP helps me so much with things that have uncertainty and COULD happen, but since death in this scenario isn’t a question, I’m struggling with how to cope with it. :(
SitwithitSitwithit
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
@alissaa I'm not sure if my OCD has caused me to panic about that example you gave. I do get what your asking. If your looking to give OCD uncertainty in regards to Death I'd be like yeah it could happen today or tomorrow or sometime idk when so I'm not going to worry about it right now. OCD likes to be a fortune teller. We don't know when we're going to die. That's as uncertain as we can get. If we're unsure and uncertain when we're going to die then I choose to not worry about it right now cause who know when it's going to happen.
SitwithitSitwithit
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 1y
It was 5 years not 5 hours.
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