Hey everyone! I’d appreciate some help here. I love my girlfriend but I’m constantly worried that I’ve made mistake or that I won’t be happy with her. It’s really stealing a lot of my happiness and is really threatening to break us up. It makes me really sad because I don’t want to hurt her. I have no idea what to do. Sometimes I get so worried about it that I nearly throw up (I know that’s gross, I’m sorry). Any help?
A lot of the time ROCD will make us pull away from our partners for the very reasons you've highlighted above, so the response I've heard is to love them even harder. It might spike the anxiety even further initially as OCD doesn't really like us pushing back but over time (no specific timeframe) it will begin to see that there is no threat and that it doesn't need to sound the alarm. This might be triggering but it has actually helped me (I am also struggling with ROCD)...its possible that you have made the wrong choice with this girl...its possible...but you probably haven't, you'll just have to wait and see. BUT, and this is important...live the life you are fighting for REGARDLESS of ocd. You say you love her? Then love her. Loves a doing word, not a magic feeling that guides us. So love her with the presence of all this discomfort and see what happens 😊 Even people without ocd question their relationships but they tend not to agonise over it, so you're thoughts are perfectly natural but the time and energy you're giving them is not. It's really difficult, I completely understand where you're at and how you feel. It's so awful but you're not alone. Hang in there 💪
@JimmyOc🇮🇪🍀 All these responses are incredible. I shared them with my partner and we were both really encouraged. Thank you!
I've been there. What helped me was to set a date to think about that again in the future. For example, I decided to wait a month to think about that again and if that concern was still something on my mind I would see it as a valid concern. It ended up with me forgetting about the subject.
@anony People with ocd obsess over these thought even though they don’t have any validity to them, it’s not easy to set a date to think about something when it’s constantly on your mind 🥲
@ocdsufferer101 I know, I have OCD. Setting a date to think about it allows me to stop trying to figure it out immediately and my rumination start decreasing. Thinking about not analyzing the subject ever again makes me more stuck in the cycle, thats why I set a moment in the future to do so.
Literally same situation for me. We’re long distance and when I see her for the first time in a while I’m so anxious I could throw up too. The thoughts that I don’t like her and I should break up feel so real sometimes. It’s as if I’m thinking it and not the OCD. When I’m with her there’s pockets where I’d rather be nowhere in the world and times where I’m overanalyzing her and want to leave. Last night I had a great time with her but my mind was just thinking “did you really?”
How am I supposed to know if it's OCD or a problem I can fix? I'm having anxiety at times I feel like I should be most relaxed (example: while having a fun time with my bf) I feel really upset by this anxiety and can't find a root cause or any way to fix it. My relationship is everything I've ever wanted and I love my boyfriend very much. We both have the same goals in life and we share some unusual hobbies. I didn't believe in "soulmates," but I really think I've found mine. Idk if I have rocd, anxious/ avoidant attachment, or if there's a problem I can't recognize, but It's an obsession for sure. I plan to use nocd for therapy soon, but can anyone offer advice about this? I know a lot of people still here aren't in a good headspace, but I'd love to hear if anyone's gotten through this and how.
Hi I’ve never posted here before. I just learned I have ROCD and it makes a lot of sense. I’m trying to find out what to tell my partner and what not to tell. I told him tonight an intrusive thought and then said “that’s my OCD talking not me!” But he got hurt anyway because it was a jab at him. He said he always feels like he’s under a microscope with me. I feel so bad. I feel like my thought was correct though but also feel like GOSH why did I say that to him? Idk what to do. I feel like there’s so solution to this except to break up.
I’ve recently been having a lot of distress about my relationship and things surrounding it due to OCD. I was wondering if you have OCD, how does it present itself in your relationship(s) (thoughts, feelings, urges, images, etc)?
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