- Username
- Nameless000
- Date posted
- 46w ago
false attraction
do you guys often confuse being triggered with actually being attracted. I struggle with this a lot.
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- ocdnoononiocdnoononi
- Date posted
- 46w ago
“Attracted” feelings often get confused with fear/anxiety. There’s a whole wiki page on it, sometimes we think “warm face, heart rate, and jitters” must equal attraction. But your brain can easily get confused, I mean it’s just a ball of meat in your skull, of course it’s gonna get things wrong. The worst part is groinal responses which can really push ocd havers off the deep end. But it’s also completely normal.
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- Lauren 🦇Lauren 🦇
- Date posted
- 46w ago
Absolutely. When I'm in a relationship and I notice someone else's appearance is attractive, I feel bad as if I am a cheater.
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- Nameless000Nameless000
- Date posted
- 46w ago
But mine is a different thing, because the object in question is a k**, what if I was actually attracted and not just triggered?
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- Cinnamoroll Cinnamoroll
- Date posted
- 46w ago
Yes and it’s incredibly tiring, every time I mistake it as genuine attraction. And because I deal with ROCD as well, I assume everyone else experiences life like this including my partner, and so I assume my partner gets aroused by everyone “just like me” but I’m mentally ill so I cannot assume everyone else is like me. And besides, what I’m experiencing are false groinals! 😅 So my logic is incredibly flawed. But the OCD always gets in the way of the truth.
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- jpell0wjpell0w
- Date posted
- 46w ago
Hey 👋🏻 there! Thanks for sharing! This is very common, I find myself asking the question itself “am I attracted to…” and then trying to disprove said thoughts.
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- Nameless000Nameless000
- Date posted
- 46w ago
Guys thanks for all the insights. I made a new post, it's very long, but it's the doubts I'm currently facing, if someone relates I'd be grateful for your opinions. It is very triggering so you don't have to do it.
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- AnonymousAnonymous
- Date posted
- 46w ago
I work at a warehouse with mostly men, and since I'm a man with SO-OCD, it's like facing the gates of he'll every day. It's silly because I've worked there since last May, but my SO-OCD didn't start happening until this past February. I don't even go to the gym anymore, and TV Shows and films I used to love are off the table. When I see conventionally attractive, I do get triggered, even angry at times. It's become a daily battle for me
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- Anonymousesti
- Date posted
- 22w ago
SOOCD and Tiktok
I think I did something I shouldnt have... I reasearched comphet on tiktok and saw a video of a girl explaining how she realised that first she wasnt bi and then she was a lesbian. She was talking all about how when she was with men she was craving "male validation" and wasnt actually attracted to men and that she confused platonnic and romantic love. and that whe she really thought about she realised that she loved being loved and desired by men but that she didnt specifically like men or wasnt attracted to men. She just found them attractive and was not attracted. And that when she broke up with her bf and stop dating man she realised how much more she could feel and how thinking about men gave her the ic. And I real all the comments and everyone was like omg omg omg. Anyways im sooo triggered because I feel like I could relate on some level. Im not sure if I like my bf for who he is or that i love how he loves me. And at first I used to calm my OCD by saying noo noo I love how he loves me but if I imagine breaking up with him it feels like it will be my last time with a men... what is happenning!!!
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- Chronicovert...
- Date posted
- 22w ago
SO-OCD and ROCD
My SO-OCD is really getting in the way of my relationship and I’m so confused if it’s meant to be platonic or romantic. We have such a strong bond and I am sexually attracted to them but my SO-OCD tries to convince me that I should be with a woman bc I’m not sure if I’m 100% straight and I feel a lot of guilt about the fact that I want a relationship with a man and get intrusive thoughts about what it would be like to be with a woman instead. But it’s about this one specific girl I found attractive and I’m not sure if it’s sexual attraction or admiration and I have been fixating on this ever since I met her because I see her consistently and I’m not sure what to do. I really want this to work with him but it’s so hard for me to trust myself and what I truly want.
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- Anonymousesti
- Date posted
- 22w ago
To all SOOCD sufferers!
SOOCD sufferers! Do you sometimes worry that you're true attraction is your false attraction and vice versa? and that you actually dont really know what true attraction is but if you go with the unwated sex you will know? Ima actually really struggeling between finding someone attractive and being attracted to someone.... I'm a straight female (I think) and I recognise a beautiful women more than a handsome men. Like I wasnt really attracted to my bf's body before actually being with him. However since in my mind, the female body has "more" if feels like I'll feel more if Im with a women? ughh soo weird. Like I dont see a men's naked body and automaticcaly get turned on, I have to be intimate with him for that to happen? honetsly between that and the romantic feelings that I feel like are not "enough" it really sounds like denial even if my therapist really diagnosed me. UGH
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