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false attraction
do you guys often confuse being triggered with actually being attracted. I struggle with this a lot.
do you guys often confuse being triggered with actually being attracted. I struggle with this a lot.
“Attracted” feelings often get confused with fear/anxiety. There’s a whole wiki page on it, sometimes we think “warm face, heart rate, and jitters” must equal attraction. But your brain can easily get confused, I mean it’s just a ball of meat in your skull, of course it’s gonna get things wrong. The worst part is groinal responses which can really push ocd havers off the deep end. But it’s also completely normal.
Absolutely. When I'm in a relationship and I notice someone else's appearance is attractive, I feel bad as if I am a cheater.
But mine is a different thing, because the object in question is a k**, what if I was actually attracted and not just triggered?
Yes and it’s incredibly tiring, every time I mistake it as genuine attraction. And because I deal with ROCD as well, I assume everyone else experiences life like this including my partner, and so I assume my partner gets aroused by everyone “just like me” but I’m mentally ill so I cannot assume everyone else is like me. And besides, what I’m experiencing are false groinals! 😅 So my logic is incredibly flawed. But the OCD always gets in the way of the truth.
Hey 👋🏻 there! Thanks for sharing! This is very common, I find myself asking the question itself “am I attracted to…” and then trying to disprove said thoughts.
Guys thanks for all the insights. I made a new post, it's very long, but it's the doubts I'm currently facing, if someone relates I'd be grateful for your opinions. It is very triggering so you don't have to do it.
I work at a warehouse with mostly men, and since I'm a man with SO-OCD, it's like facing the gates of he'll every day. It's silly because I've worked there since last May, but my SO-OCD didn't start happening until this past February. I don't even go to the gym anymore, and TV Shows and films I used to love are off the table. When I see conventionally attractive, I do get triggered, even angry at times. It's become a daily battle for me
Can anyone give their experience on FALSE ATTRACTION? At this moment, mine has become worse. Soon as I see a male my anxiety shoots up, I can feel this in my chest and my OCD is telling me I’m attracted. But I continue to look back or stare and the disgust comes over me and my body shakes and I feel my face screw up. I can’t listen to music I use too or watch movies which was a favourite thing of mine to do. I just feel disgusted and not who I am when it happens. It’s like a different me. P.S. I had a very good week few days ago where I knew this wasn’t me and these feelings/ thoughts isn’t me.
actual attrcation. i’ve decided im gonna just let the false attraction happen, not try to stop it or question it. is it wrong for this erp to juts when i watch a video and get a false attraction just experience the false feelings and scroll? because i feel like the longer i sit with it the longer i begin to question whether its real or not.
so, my intrusive feelings started over a thought about a guys arms being attractive, and i still think big arks are attractive, but i hate his face? and his personality, so would it still be false attraction? if i like his body but not his face or personality because i have every single false attraction sign, but i just like his arms/body. someone please lmk!!
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