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false attraction
do you guys often confuse being triggered with actually being attracted. I struggle with this a lot.
do you guys often confuse being triggered with actually being attracted. I struggle with this a lot.
“Attracted” feelings often get confused with fear/anxiety. There’s a whole wiki page on it, sometimes we think “warm face, heart rate, and jitters” must equal attraction. But your brain can easily get confused, I mean it’s just a ball of meat in your skull, of course it’s gonna get things wrong. The worst part is groinal responses which can really push ocd havers off the deep end. But it’s also completely normal.
Absolutely. When I'm in a relationship and I notice someone else's appearance is attractive, I feel bad as if I am a cheater.
But mine is a different thing, because the object in question is a k**, what if I was actually attracted and not just triggered?
Yes and it’s incredibly tiring, every time I mistake it as genuine attraction. And because I deal with ROCD as well, I assume everyone else experiences life like this including my partner, and so I assume my partner gets aroused by everyone “just like me” but I’m mentally ill so I cannot assume everyone else is like me. And besides, what I’m experiencing are false groinals! 😅 So my logic is incredibly flawed. But the OCD always gets in the way of the truth.
Hey 👋🏻 there! Thanks for sharing! This is very common, I find myself asking the question itself “am I attracted to…” and then trying to disprove said thoughts.
Guys thanks for all the insights. I made a new post, it's very long, but it's the doubts I'm currently facing, if someone relates I'd be grateful for your opinions. It is very triggering so you don't have to do it.
I work at a warehouse with mostly men, and since I'm a man with SO-OCD, it's like facing the gates of he'll every day. It's silly because I've worked there since last May, but my SO-OCD didn't start happening until this past February. I don't even go to the gym anymore, and TV Shows and films I used to love are off the table. When I see conventionally attractive, I do get triggered, even angry at times. It's become a daily battle for me
Ughhhhhh it feels like I can’t tell between false attraction or attractive 😭 :/ idk I just saw some pics of joji and artist that makes music when he was younger (it was a post on insta) and on one of them I thought oh he looks cute here, but no I’m like omg but idk in what way tho but it felt like not false attraction like I thought or meant it in another way and I. Felt that and then kinda freaked out bc idk if it’s weird and then I felt groinals and *sigh*
Does anyone else when they have the thoughts, they feel against it, but they still get arousal or tenglings sensations in the groinal area? Because this is what I experienced today and I feel like crap. This is going to be very triggering for a lot of you, but there are a lot of times that I notice things from kids. For example, there is a thirteen year old kid who looks very developed for her age, and I take notice of (and this already sounds creepy to me) her chest. Today with my thoughts, I imagined as if I were touching it, and although I usually "no no or "I don't want to do that", she is a kid, etc., I still get responses in my groinal area, and It felt very real. Even now, I feel as though I am faking it, even though I groan 😮💨 from it, and feel as though I am a fraud. Does anyone relate?
I told my therapist I had intrusive about my bff and keeps asking me if I’m attracted to her and I’m say I am not he’s keep saying maybe u are .
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