I saw a video long a go on youtube, it was more like a poetry slam called “how to know you’re lesbian”. ❗️HOCD-Trigger ❗️ At first she said something like “If you searched for a video like this, you probably are.” And then she told her story where she was on holidays with a guy she was dating. She told that she couldn’t cuddle with him and all this stuff like not having feelings for him etc. And at the end she realized she liked girls. It triggered me so much, because she came out in her late 20‘s. I have never had boyfriend and my fear is that when get one I realize I‘m lesbian, but I don‘t want to, because it doesn’t feel like myself ? Do you believe she knew that she likes girls from an early age although she came out late?

The problem with these kinds of videos is that many people who are genuinely LGBTQ do not know about HOCD/SO OCD , so they take any physical sensation to be indicative of orientation even when there’s no actual connection or evidence between the two. You have to be careful with judging your experiences side by side with someone else’s , as you can’t know for sure what shaped them , the details they left out , etc. these videos always simplify sexuality and attempt to help people know for sure what they are , but the truth is , it’s more complex then they make it out to be. It’s not important whether she knew she liked them at an early age , and you can’t compare your story to hers. No two stories are the same and if two people experience the same thing it could still mean something differently for both. I saw one of these on YouTube and at the time I took it very seriously but now looking back I realize it’s such bullshit and the misinformation is truly astounding and scary. If these people knew more about being a human , they would realize that there are experiences the majority of humans have that are NOT signs of sexual orientation. Arousal non concordance , groinal sensations , and OCD creating false feelings are well known , but please try your hardest to accept that you might not be straight. Not because you aren’t , but so you can get under the fear and have it not rule over you constantly. Tell yourself that even if you were not straight , you would be okay with that and that you would somehow learn to accept it no matter what.

@xiiiandreww thank you so much, this was one of the most helpful and best answers I have ever received! Thank you!! ?

I hate It when some of the LGBT community are trying to convince the others that they are homosexual too.Im not homophobic at all but I know this girl that was always talking about me and my bestie that we are acting ‘’gay’’ just because we were holding hands and stuffs and because we said something about a celebrity but It wasnt something serious we were just kidding and this girl was like ‘’nd you are telling me that you are not gay?’’ and It was so annoying

Yeah... I remember watching a video like that too when my hocd first started. They always no matter what always say “if you’re watching this or questioned it then you might be” like well hmm. Okay I guess so.

@MentalHealth anytime , so glad I could help !! ❤️❤️