Can’t guess ages very confidently anymore…

For the most part anything under 16 I can usually (?) tell- but a few times I’ve incorrectly guessed an adult was a kid and a kid was an adult and that’s really worried me significantly. I’m really stressed, does anyone else have this problem? Am I overthinking it???? Or am I a dangerous person for having these thoughts…? Recently I found a girl on Instagram who was the tallest oldest looking 15 yr old I’ve ever seen and I panicked. I just hoped she was lying cause she looked like she was 25 :( The comments were people also not knowing her age and then a stream of people shaming them for it. I felt really gross inside, I wasn’t even attracted to her or anything I was just worried that by not guessing her age correctly that I was a P.

Username: Inner PeaceInner Peace

Date posted: 37w ago

I've felt that exact way before. It's difficult to guess people's ages and there is never a polite way of asking or getting that information off social media. My suggestion is if you are looking to get a relationship, I would go off of social media. There is nothing there for you except for time consuming poison. When you are in person and meeting people, you can better guess their ages and even ask politely for permission by that person to inquire about their age. Social media is nothing more than smoke and mirrors. I have been off it for a week and I feel relatively great! Hope this helps.

Username: orla123orla123

Date posted: 37w ago

I get people's ages wrong all the time because I have bad facial recognition skills. A lot of people with OCD worry about harming kids and if you're feeling guilty about harming kids, you most likely don't want to hurt them. Also people on the internet shame other people for no reason all the time, there's no need to worry.

Username: Ben84Ben84

Date posted: 37w ago

OCD seems to have given you a commandment of sorts: Thou shalt not find someone under 18 attractive. Therefore you must know if they are an adult or a minor so you can have acceptable thoughts and feelings about them. Been there, tried that. I failed following that commandment. What I haven't failed is following the law, plus my own moral code of not indulging in fantasies about minors.

Username: m___

Date posted: 1y ago

Pocd? Ruminating

Yesterday I was watching a show and I thought the boy was cute and just randomly texted my cousins cuz we were watching the same show. I’m 23, & at first glance I barely paid attention but I thought he was at least 21, but my cousins replied with “he looks 18 you pervert” or “it’s looking bad for you”. I started freaking out immediately checked to his face properly again and he did look younger, & I felt so disgusted with myself. I felt terrible, instantly regretted everything & didn’t know what to do. I’ve been anxious since last night barely been able to sleep cuz I just complimented someone who is younger than me. My mind is now like ruminating that I’m a pedophile or pervert for thinking that. I hate this because I honestly wasn’t thinking of it in that type of sense like I would date him or something, I was not aware. I would’ve forgot about that moment after. I needed to get it off my chest cuz I have been feeling exhausted & terrible.

POCD

Username: Things will ...

Date posted: 1y ago

Is this common? What should I do ?

Right now I'm dealing with Pocd, and my main obsession is like age checking ? Whenever I see someone somewhat attractive I always have a thought saying "what if they were underage and you found them attractive " do I just dismiss the thought? Because it really does bother me but at the same time I'd like to know. Or one time some girl appeared on social media to look older and I found her attractive but once I saw her age I freaked out & felt so uneasy and uncomfy.

Username: Northern_Dow...

Date posted: 1y ago

Please help (POCD)

I was watching this random tiktok on my fyp and this guy was comparing his art vs how how he looks or whatever. He is 15 and when he showed how he looked in real life I had a thought that was like 'damn that's how he looks??' and immediately after I thought 'he's 15 why would you think that' and im so anxious that's proof that im attracted to minors. I am 22 and I have never been attracted to a kid, nor have i ever considered dating or persuing a kid. Ive had POCD intrusive thoughts before but still, the pictures had his face covered and they looked like those aesthetic pinterest pictures people post, and i wasnt expecting that. I feel like vomiting but that thought felt so natural and im worried i meant it. Why would I have a thought like that?? I know we're 'not our thoughts' or whatever but that didn't feel like an intrusive thought and now I'm worried that was proof im attracted to a minor and that one of my worst fears is true. I'm also worried if I pass It off as an intrusive thought im in denial or making an excuse. Please help.

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