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Today was kinda hard😵‍💫 I tried to go to a new therapist who does ERP (my current therapist doesn't - I've read a lot about it on NOCD but never tried it with a therapist). However, telling her my intrusive thoughts, I got so triggered. I don't know, but the more she asked and the more I answered, my brain was like: "She thinks you like girls and you are in denial... and you know, it's probably the most logical thing. That's it". I somehow went out there convinced that was the truth. Then I had a really ugly cry with my mother 💀 and now I don't know what to do! I don't know if it's her "fault" that I got triggered or if it's a good thing... like, she didn't reassure me or give me an answer ("oh don't worry, you certainly love your boyfriend!" or "uh yeah, you're absolutely lying, you're in denial"), so maybe that's a good thing?

Username: AmandaB345AmandaB345

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 32w ago

No this is a good thing. My therapist did the same thing to me. She didn't give me any type of feedback for a while because she knew my thoughts were going into that exact mindset like yours did. Essentially you did ERP by facing those intrusive thoughts and acknowledging them and not trying to do any compulsions!! Good job!! I wish you the best on your healing journey

Username: Iwanttobreakfree🦋Iwanttobreak...

Date posted: 32w ago

Thank you so much! I really hope this therapist is gonna help me. I live in Italy and it's very difficult to find someone who does ERP. I've also considered trying with NOCD but it's a bit expensive for me and I would have to do the sessions in English. If you have done therapy with them, may I ask you how was your experience with them?

Username: AmandaB345AmandaB345

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 32w ago

@gre-gre Therapy has been wonderful!! A challenge but wonderful

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 32w ago

My therapist did the same. She actually never gave me any feedback, she just told me how to deal with my thoughts and then later on we talked about obsessions and compulsions, but at the beginning of my “journey” I had no idea what was going on. So I think you should give it a chance and see how it works. Hope it helps. I have your same subtypes, so I just want to say that I feel you :)

Username: Iwanttobreakfree🦋Iwanttobreak...

Date posted: 32w ago

Thank you, you're very kind, good like for your recovery! The therapist also said that I might have some wrong expectations on how I should feel in a relationship (ex. "if I don't feel like this, my relationship isn't right") and that I should change that. I really don't understand if it's good or not. It's just that it's the third therapist I try to go to and I'm getting tired🫠 I'm scared it will lead to nothing even this time

Username: blazedblazed

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 32w ago

My therapist did this too 🥲 she didn’t give reassurance but validated how difficult this experience was/is for me. This triggered me a lot tho bc I thought “did I say something that makes her think I’m gay?” and “am I lying to her but don’t know it?”. Not getting reassured sent my anxiety through the roof. It’s a universal experience for all of us with OCD - if we don’t get the answers we want we freak out lol.

Username: Iwanttobreakfree🦋Iwanttobreak...

Date posted: 32w ago

Oh yesss😭 At least I feel less alone ahhaha, thanks🫶

Username: AmandaB345AmandaB345

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 32w ago

@blazed Yep! Now mine is a little more vocal and share more now but boy beforehand she was just as silent as could be. It made me so nervous

Username: Jal_is_okayJal_is_okay

Date posted: 28d ago

This chat is so beautiful to read.

Username: 1nussy

Date posted: 6y ago

I’m confused an a bit angry. I met with a new therapist today and my insurance hasn’t allowed me to get someone who understands pure O and who is knowledgeable about ERP. This woman was a CBT and told me that wheneve I have an intrusive thought to deny it and tell myself that I’m a good person and to reassure myself. I tried to explain that that in itself is a compulsion for people at Pure O but she kept coming back to it. My gut is telling me she’s wrong because the times I was panicking And would try to rationalize it like she told me to the thoughts would only get worse. I told her that I used to be worried about harming people and have been listening to podcasts about serial killers as an exposure and how it’s working and I’m not having a problem with it anymore and she told me to take a break from that as if it was unhealthy. I told her I’d appreciate it to research ERP as a I left, and was willing to give her another chance but as soon as I told my parents about what she said they flipped out on me and told me I’m being picky and am unopen to options other than ERP. Am I being crazy or picky ??? I’m so confused

Username: Persistix

Date posted: 6y ago

Just went to a therapist for the first time and summoned the nerve to talk about what I feel is hocd- I left so upset after what she said, and so invalidated. I'm okay but feel like she just assumed things that didn't feel true to me and made me question everything. I'm so discouraged rn

Username: Wyomama14

Date posted: 1y ago

Upsetting encounter with therapist

I had a terrible session with my therapist today. We have been doing CBT for a little over a year now working through a few different things. Today was the first day we really experienced therapy during an active OCD meltdown. I've had a hard week and was seeking help from my therapist to move forward out of the spiral. She ended our session by telling me people with OCD can become psychotic, that it does happen, that OCD gets worse and that I have to use my tools. That was the least helpful thing she could have told me, as I've been actively spiraling about harm ocd and fearing "going crazy" or losing impulse control. It was VERY hard for me to be honest with her, and now I just feel worse, worrying more about whether or not this is a common occurrence. Can anyone shed more light on her claim that people with OCD can become psychotic?

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