Intrusive thoughts during sex?

Does anyone else have intrusive thoughts during sex that make you lose your ability for focus/make the experience less enjoyable? I have POCD so having intrusive thoughts of this nature during sex not only make sex with my boyfriend way less enjoyable, but also make me feel perverted for having them while simultaneously aroused. It feels like they’re causing my arousal even tho I know rationally that they aren’t. Any advice? Feel kind of alone in this.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 29w ago

This has happened to me more recently and I understand how hard it is. My mind has told me that those intrusive thoughts and images are what’s causing my arousal. It’s hard not to think they are real if the arousal there too. What has helped me is that I was able to have sex with my bf without these intrusive thoughts before and that they aren’t a representation of my character

Username: ChocolateChocolate

Date posted: 29w ago

I've definitely had this happen. Not with POCD but with other OCD intrusive thoughts that makes the experience less enjoyable.

Username: Hopeful2022Hopeful2022

Date posted: 29w ago

This happens to me all the time, so hard to cope with :(

Username: Dreamweaver Dreamweaver

Date posted: 29w ago

OMGOODNESS. I know this is awful and I’m currently just experiencing this for the very first time, I just suddenly had these crazy intrusive thoughts starting last Friday and then I was intimate with my husband and the thoughts kept intruding and I wanted to come out of my skin, and now I’m actually really worried about being sexual at all right now.

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 29w ago

same but masturbation. my therapist helped me figure out ERP exercises for it and I think it's hilarious that "go masturbate (and btw think about triggering stuff so that your brain stops being triggered by it)" is now therapy

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 29w ago

*and also "write about triggering stuff," etc. some pocd plus just a lot of thoughts i don't want to have in that context

Username: Brooke cookieBrooke cookie

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 29w ago

I do not have that particular OCD but I do have pure OCD and I would recommend for my experience dealing with it that you just push through and do the things you wanna do anyway, for example, in this case, just decide you’re gonna have a good time with your boyfriend even though you’re having the thoughts and not let them bother you I know that’s easier said than done but that’s what I recommend deciding that you were going to ignore the thoughts or just let them be there and not stop you from doing what you want to do.

Username: loubr80loubr80

Date posted: 29w ago

Just let them pass, try and be completely present in the moment, I used to make sure my eyes were open to make sure that I was giving myself the best chance of being present. It’s hard but it is possible, I don’t get them anymore but it is possible, let them fly in and then fly out, no response no questions just be present x

Username: GoAwayOCD1060GoAwayOCD1060

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 29w ago

I used to just come up with a song "Im a gay bisexual man" to normalize the idea and fear that I could be gay/bi to make fun of it and eventually it started to actually lessen the anxiety and was less bothered by it. I found myself having sex with my wife and humming that to relax those intrusive thoughts to the point I didn't even realize I was humming that damn song anymore BUT didn't affect my sex whatsoever.

Username: ambermayx

Date posted: 36w ago

Sexual ocd [TMI]

Hey , I feel like I’m alone with getting intrusive and unwanted thoughts during sex / mast3rbation and when I’m finishing and it makes me feel disgusted and that I’m a disgusting person and that I agree with the thoughts I get and I get really upset after and guilty and regret doing it Please can someone tell me if they experience things like this and if it’s not just me It’s something I’ve been really struggling with but I try not to let it get in the way of me having a sex life

Username: Jay222

Date posted: 34w ago

Intrusive thoughts at inconvenient times

From what I’ve seen from quite a few people on here and Reddit, dealing with intrusive thoughts during “private” time seems to be something i and many others sadly deal with. I’ve “sort of” gotten used to it but I wish I can enjoy myself sexually the way I used to before these thoughts took over my mind. It’s literally what started the POCD obsession for me in the first place, and why it’s so hard to believe it’s OCD when these thoughts are so prevalent when I’m engaging in something sexual. I always feel reluctant to actually do the deed sometimes cause of how present the thoughts are before I do it but I force myself to cause avoiding it isn’t gonna help. And honestly, I just want to get it over with before my sex drive and these thoughts clash and make it infinitely worse. I try my best to focus on what I know I want (gay porn) but it’s like windshield wipers during a storm. I see clearly for like 5 seconds then boom there’s something that shouldn’t be there and I have to stop. Over and over again. It’s even worse when I finish and it finds its way back on mind when it should be the last thing on it at such a moment. I can’t believe the one thing I used as a stress reliever is now something that cause me nothing but stress.

Username: Bwillbebetter

Date posted: 25w ago

intrusive thoughts during sexual activities (+18)

Has anyone gone through this or is still going through this and can give any tips on how to make it stop? The intrusive thoughts during sexual activities are simply bothering me so much that I'm afraid to do anything like that because of the thoughts. I couldn't do it for weeks because I was always thinking about some atrocious thing, but yesterday I failed and now I'm feeling bad because even though I tried not to think, it's like I had an open folder in the back of my head and I blame myself for not being able to delete or block it. I'm afraid that avoiding it will become a compulsion and disrupt my sex life, but I also don't feel comfortable doing it often because of the thoughts. Does anyone identify? any tips to improve? I'm repressing myself because of this and I know it's not something that will do me any good. Sorry if this is inappropriate.

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