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- 6y
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Yes, I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years w the love of my life and every time things are especially good this happens to me! Your brain just might be so used to chaos that you create it yourself. They’re just intrusive thoughts; if they weren’t, they wouldn’t upset you so much!
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- 6y
I’ve been with my husband for 14 years, since we were teenagers, and he’s the love of my life and best friend. However, I struggle with thinking it’s “not enough.” Like no matter what, I always want something “more” and feel like I can’t ever just be satisfied. Especially when things are really good and we’re really happy. It’s like my brain wants to make a mess of the goodness. I can totally relate. It’s just intrusive thoughts and would happen with anyone you’re with. I’m sorry we’re all dealing with this ❤️
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- 6y
I understand what you’re going through! Whenever I’m alone with my boyfriend I feel super calm and everything but then a few hours later or the next day I’ll be like “You don’t actually like him.” or “You shouldn’t have done that.” It’s exhausting
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- 6y
Hi ashez. How are things going? Do you have any kids?
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- 5y
Hi! Sorry for the late reply. Things are going good. My husband and I have a really amazing relationship with good communication so he always knows where my head is at, which helps keep me grounded. We don’t have any children, which I think is what often contributes to my “not enough” thoughts. Growing up, I always wanted to be a mother, but health wise, it never worked out for us. We talked about other ways to have children, but eventually decided we like our life the way it is and don’t want to have children. Unfortunately, even though I know for sure that I’m perfectly happy not having children, sometimes I have this thought pop into my head that I won’t be happy later in life if I don’t have them or that secretly I do want them. I start to obsess over it and that’s where the trouble comes in. I’m learning to accept the “what if.” What if I am unhappy later because we never had children...that’s ok. Hope that made sense! I’ve just had a 13 hour work day so my communication skills are not great right now ? How are you doing?
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I’m doing ok as well. My brain is on constant alert for all these things. Do I love her? Did I ever love her? Was there ever any reason? I always had doubts even while dating but I dismissed them and got married anyways. Once I committed and got engaged, the thoughts shut down completely for a few years. I mean I’ve had ocd all my life in other ways and forms so I guess I’m not surprised with this but this theme has by far been the hardest for me.
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- 24w
Im scared that if I start to think it too much, I will start to believe it, and it becomes my reality. I always have thoughts like, “Do I love him, what if I lose feelings, how longs is this going to last, when will these thoughts finally go away, is he the one for me, is this how love feels like or am I just convincing myself?” I start to search things up to make myself feel better but the longest that works for is a few hours and then that gut wrenching feeling comes back. I love him I’m sure of it, but then why do I feel like this? I know if I didn’t love someone I would let them go and would t even fight for it or try to get better, but for him I’m trying ever second of everyday and sometimes I just feel so hopeless. I can’t afford a therapist and I’m too busy to talk to one. I don’t know what to do or how to feel, sometimes I just feel numb and I hate it, sometimes I feel like crying but can’t, and most the time I don’t feel jealous anymore and that scares me because I’m a jealous person. Then I get thoughts and reminders of my ex. Not in a way that I like them but the hatred and the trauma and pain they left me with. The mental, verbal and physical abuse. Sometimes my current relationship reminds me of him and why I shouldn’t be in one because I always fall into this deep hole that feels impossible to get out of. I just get so scared.
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- 20w
my thoughts are screaming at me telling me that i dont want my relationship anymore and that i realized i lost feelings. i have a beautiful relationship of two years with a beautiful boy that loves me dearly and i deal with this thoughs for a year and a half. Im so scared it feels so real im scared i have changed and my last therapy session made it worse she basically told me i have to realise the thoughts are true and stop lying to myself. And made me think i am so scared and heartbroken bc i put high expectations on myslef to be with my boyfriend for all my life. Maybe i dont want to hurt him??? im always questioning my feelings for him 24/7 for over a year. I wm tierd
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- 19w
Do you ever feel like you wonder if your ocd would be less if you were with someone else? Or would it be better if you were with someone else? I’m really upset because I used to be able to enjoy myself even with the anxiety and now it’s like i am just analyzing and I don’t have feelings and I’m irritated because there’s things that frustrate me about him that I don’t like and my brain says if I was with someone else I would be able to deal with those things better and that we just aren’t right for each other. And the thoughts that used to make me anxious about breaking up don’t like it’s really me that feels it. I know no relationship is perfect but it’s like my brain keeps saying with someone else I wouldn’t feel like this or I would but I’d be able to handle it better. It feels like I have to just start fresh with someone new cause the ocd got too into this to the point where I don’t feel or even know what’s real. It feels like fear and anxiety and just being so into this has just made me feel not into this anymore but idk if I’m thinking right. It’s also just warped the way I see him like I only see the negatives and my brain keeps saying you don’t feel this cause it’s wrong. And it’s depressing bc of how happy and safe I used to feel. I’m supposed to see him soon and it’s like I want to but also don’t because I feel like things have changed unless that’s just something I made in my head and cause I don’t feel the feelings I used to. But then I think I will just be this way with someone else but then my brain says otherwise and it’s so confusing. People keep telling me not to make decisions because I’m fogged but it feels like I’m not. Like my brain is manipulating me. And also like all the things I used to like I’ve somehow turned into like distaste which is so upsetting. I would like to think this is just ocd taking control and confusing me and distorting my perspective but I’m scared it’s not and that my feelings are gone. Has anyone experienced this but it was still ocd?
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