efm123
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Yes, I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years w the love of my life and every time things are especially good this happens to me! Your brain just might be so used to chaos that you create it yourself. They’re just intrusive thoughts; if they weren’t, they wouldn’t upset you so much!
AshezAshez
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I’ve been with my husband for 14 years, since we were teenagers, and he’s the love of my life and best friend. However, I struggle with thinking it’s “not enough.” Like no matter what, I always want something “more” and feel like I can’t ever just be satisfied. Especially when things are really good and we’re really happy. It’s like my brain wants to make a mess of the goodness. I can totally relate. It’s just intrusive thoughts and would happen with anyone you’re with. I’m sorry we’re all dealing with this ❤️
Madeline Madeline
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- 6y
I understand what you’re going through! Whenever I’m alone with my boyfriend I feel super calm and everything but then a few hours later or the next day I’ll be like “You don’t actually like him.” or “You shouldn’t have done that.” It’s exhausting
OcdstinksOcdstinks
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Hi ashez. How are things going? Do you have any kids?
AshezAshez
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- 6y
Hi! Sorry for the late reply. Things are going good. My husband and I have a really amazing relationship with good communication so he always knows where my head is at, which helps keep me grounded. We don’t have any children, which I think is what often contributes to my “not enough” thoughts. Growing up, I always wanted to be a mother, but health wise, it never worked out for us. We talked about other ways to have children, but eventually decided we like our life the way it is and don’t want to have children. Unfortunately, even though I know for sure that I’m perfectly happy not having children, sometimes I have this thought pop into my head that I won’t be happy later in life if I don’t have them or that secretly I do want them. I start to obsess over it and that’s where the trouble comes in. I’m learning to accept the “what if.” What if I am unhappy later because we never had children...that’s ok. Hope that made sense! I’ve just had a 13 hour work day so my communication skills are not great right now ? How are you doing?
OcdstinksOcdstinks
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I’m doing ok as well. My brain is on constant alert for all these things. Do I love her? Did I ever love her? Was there ever any reason? I always had doubts even while dating but I dismissed them and got married anyways. Once I committed and got engaged, the thoughts shut down completely for a few years. I mean I’ve had ocd all my life in other ways and forms so I guess I’m not surprised with this but this theme has by far been the hardest for me.
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