I don’t even think this is OCD I’m just looking for advice on this: I fancy females but the thought of sex with them makes me anxious, nervous, guilty and sick why is that, also I’m a male.
What kind of advice are you looking for? Advice on whether this anxiety is OCD-related? Or advice on understanding your sexuality?
@fruitbat42069 Both plz
@ Anonymous So, i think a good litmus test for understanding if it’s OCD or not is how thoughts make you feel. It sounds like it could be OCD because feeling anxious, nervous, guilty, and sick are all very common feelings about thoughts that we have obsessions about. Then, if it’s a recurring or “intrusive thought” that you don’t want to be there. If the thoughts you feel go against your character, and therefore make you feel awful and upset, that’s a good indication that it could be OCD.
Yeah I understand thankyou, I don’t think it’s OCD related I just think it’s the thought of sex and the male being the provider in sex kinda is what I’m nervous for I guess? But is that me questioning my sexuality I don’t know
@ Anonymous No, that sounds more like performance anxiety. Which is super normal. It’s stressful to feel like you have to have a good sexual experience. You don’t have to. Sex for the first time with anyone is always different and could be not that great. And that’s ok!
@fruitbat42069 Okay thanks perhaps that’ll put my mind at ease a little thankyou
As for understanding your sexuality, it can be really difficult to understand and can take time and different experiences and reflection to really feel confident about. I’ve heard many times tho and agree with the fact that sexuality can be fluid and change a little bit over time for different folks and through different experiences. If you’ve never had sex before, it could just be that you’re afraid of the act of sex because of it’s taboo in culture or the risks it has or many other reasons. People all have different relationships with sex, and that’s ok. You don’t have to shame or push yourself into liking anything that you don’t want, but it’s also okay to explore and try new things, so long as you’re consenting and so is the other person.
@fruitbat42069 Yes thankyou for the comment that has helped perhaps it’s become even more difficult with my problems that are occurring for the last 2 years, but thankyou for this.
@ Anonymous Of course. I’m glad my comments could help you out a little. Good luck 🫡
@fruitbat42069 Thankyou
Sexuality is fluid. I think @fruitbat42069 said it perfectly.
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