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I want to be happy and not be miserable and I feel like I try to help others be happy but I can’t get myself to be happy 😢
I want to be happy and not be miserable and I feel like I try to help others be happy but I can’t get myself to be happy 😢
Can you apply the things you do to make others happy to yourself? Also, I have also wanted to be happy but I realize that no one’s happy all the time. What I try to be now is a person who can handle emotions. I’ve been monitoring my emotions through this free app. It might give you insight. https://howwefeel.org/
I also struggle with making myself happy. I think that Has to do some with your Ocd makes you compare yourself and other things that make you want to isolate yourself and feel depressed and worthless.  When you feel this way, makes you feel depressed and it makes it hard for you to have the energy or be motivated to do things you want to do it’s like you’re stuck in this cycle.
I’m feeling kind of sad cause today was not a really good day in terms of my ocd. I was feeling kind of foggy/numb and that send me to spiraling. I’m 21 years old currently studying but my family has been having trouble with money for the last couple years(we’re just me and my mom) and I kinda want to get a job but everything is far from my home and I wouldn’t be able to return back at night, also it’s either way more expensive to move or the schedule wouldn’t let me take my classes. The point is that because of that every time my mom is stress tends to treat me bad, she speaks to me like I’m stupid or she just screams to nothing cursing all life and everything and that actually makes me feel soo bad and guilty for not doing anything, I know it’s hard for me to get a job that actually helps us without quitting school but that doesn’t stop me from feeling like I’m a burden. I want to help, I want to maybe hug her or something but I know she will be angrier and probably will reject it. So that’s it, I just feel like she punishes me for the stress she’s carrying and I get it but one day is happy and it feels like all love and the next is treating me like that, Idk it’s hard (also I feel like I shouldn’t be saying this cause it’s all my fault) 🫤
Everyday I wake up, all my mind makes me think of is the stuff I’ve done in the past, like all day I’m in a constant cycle of judging who I used to be and it hurts so so much. I wish I never thought to do those things, I wish I had been more mature than how I was before, it’s really lowering my self worth and I don’t think I’ve ever felt this miserable before, like last summer was the worst because I was dealing with this shit, I about almost ended my life over it, and I thought it would get better, which it did, but it didn’t last but for a while. As soon as it became 2025 I was going through it again, having constant cycles of “I’m a good person” to “I’m the worst person imaginable” and I’m so sick of it because I just want to feel like the good person l like to imagine myself to be, but I can’t because of shit I did in the past that I obsess over. I’ve cried and screamed so much over it and it seems like it will never leave me.
I'm struggling severely. Please comment so I have a therapist or someone to talk to. Someone has caused me to spiral in another group.
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