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I can relate so much. I jus wanna go back to the old me without the fear of being gay or bisexual and getting all these feelings and desires . I had a really bad panic attack yesterday You just gotta stay strong I believe it will get better for you and aswell for me stay strong??
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This is the HOCD playing games with your mind. Try not to give it fuel to keep the fire burning. And believe you will beat it.
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i guess how do i know it’s the HOCD and not me? that’s what i’m getting so confused on.
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@helloworld287 The best thing you can do is accept the possibility that you may never know. Try to expose yourself to the idea that you aren't straight and you'll just have to live your life and deal with it, without trying to check your responses or reassure yourself. Whatever the case is, we all have to accept the gray and uncertain areas of life.
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Try exercise, a healthier diet, and more water, a healthy body equals a healthy mind. there are lots of apps for mindfulness too.
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Im in a relapse as well! I beat it before and now its come back. I try to tell myself that if this were true i wouldnt have lived with complete assurance of who i was for years between these 2 episodes. I had a traumatic event happen that set me off again.
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same! mine was set off from a text my friend sent about a pride parade and i remember in that moment it felt like my heart sank to my stomach and boom 3.5 months later my ocd has been stronger than ever... how are you dealing with it and what did you do before to over come it?
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Thank you so much! You too! When it comes to ocd the best action is to do absolutly nothing. Its the less is more phenomenon.
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ok that’s what i’m trying to do now and i hope w all my life it works. i’m beyond anxious over it even tho i was seeing improvement some weeks
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You had it previously and you're just after relapsing . The HOCD wants you to believe it's not HOCD and just you. This is wrong. OCD plays tricks on your mind to believe something that is completely untrue than you panic which leads to More anxiety. The brain is a funny machine. I wish none of it was in the world some days it can be unbearable. But very "beatable".
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i know you’re right it’s just so hard for my brain to rationalize that rn. like if this was me it would not have gone away before. i guess do you have any recommendations for how to deal with these anxious moments so i can learn to trust myself more and not the OCD.
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I do therapy with a lot of emdr. I had trauma from my childhood i needed to address. But mostly i had to accept the thoughts and body sensations without reacting and just letting them be there. It eventually goes away after you do not respond or even acknowledged its there. I lost my pregnancy at 5 months pregnant and went into health ocd then dropped down into hocd unfortunantly.
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i’m so sorry. i wish you many blessings and a happy life. that this ocd goes away and is instead replaced with a beautiful life filled with happiness
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I did have to increase my meds a little bit too. Just for the short term hopefully.
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same! it’s nice to hear someone else that has similar symptoms. makes me feel less alone
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Agreed!
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I feel so relieved, I thought I was the only one! I’m so scared and I don’t know what to do. The idea of liking a gurl makes me so fucking anxious. I’m never relaxed. But I’ve decided to try even harder since I’m so sick of it. We have to be strong!!
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I struggle with HOCD or SOOCD. I’m a married young woman to an amazing husband. I’ve had this since I was 16 but it only came in flair ups. However this round started in October, and it’s been really rough and I would just break down all the time. I went up on my medication and I actually noticed a difference! My thoughts were still very present but I wasn’t really paying attention to them or giving them power. HOWEVER right when I thought I was getting better, my brain started feeling and saying to myself that I just know I am bi but you want to make excuses for it like “oh it’s normal to find someone hot since we as a society have an interpretation of what that looks like” or “I see the girl as myself and that’s what ‘turns’ me on” or “well I mean that girl looks kind of like a man” and it’s it’s making me spiral. I won’t ever come out as Bi as deep in my soul I don’t feel I am. I have always wanted to be with men sexually and romantically and that has not changed but my brain is making me believe I am and I just don’t want to admit it. Please help me, what has helped you?
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I’ve recovered from HOCD before and got my attraction and my usual actual identity back. I was recovered from end 2022- start 2025 until I got triggered UGHHH😭 My HOCD is REALLY trying to convince me and it’s SO annoying cause I genuinely don’t want these thoughts. I know I naturally like men and always have done so. I can’t wait for my first therapy session in two days Omg! I need your advice, not necessarily reassurance, but more advice? My HOCD is throwing random “proof” I did/ saw as a child in my face, which back then had no meaning in my life and I continued to live a perfectly heterosexual life. I’ve educated myself about arousal non concordance / child’s play, but it still doesn’t remove the HOCD. I’ve read therapists great explanations on how it’s not a sexuality issue, BUT ITS AN OCD BRAIN ISSUE. So basically I’ve been straight and i will die as straight. But my ocd is still continuing with the intrusive thoughts/flashbacks. I’ve had some moments where I haven’t done as many compulsions and had less anxiety but still had those damn thoughts and I DO NOT want those damn thoughts. I have so much proof and factual/logical explanations but HOCD is still continuing to thrive. I absolutely hate this and I feel so alone. I wish there was a reset button cause I don’t want these thoughts to happen. I want a man and I stand by that. How do y’all deal with these situations? Cause sitting with the thoughts is clearly not helping.
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I’ve been dealing with SOOCD for over a year now, and I have been having a very hard day today. I feel like I just need someone to talk too, my whole life I’ve always had girl crushes and always wanted to be romantic with women . Ever since I posted this picture on instagram and one person said I looked “zesty” in it , which is when I started obsessing about being gay . I feel like I put so much meaning to these thoughts where now I’m always checking how I feeling around men. I had a really bad porn addiction for a long time and bad anxiety which fucked up my sex drive. I feel like I doubt if I’m attracted to women when I know I am , but the doubt is so overbearing where I start to believe it . I never was interested in men sexually, and my ocd makes me feel like I like the thoughts even though I feel no pleasure out of it. I feel like I lost who I am as a person . It feels like I don’t even know what my sexuality is and it’s really upsetting to me . I meant this girl the other day and she is the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met and I just feel like ocd is getting in the way😭😭😭 please any advice or comments
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