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Thoughts anyone?
Hey, everyone. So I am a college student going into my sophomore year in fall. For reference I am 19 and have ocd which I found out recently.College is rough for me in social settings especially rotc which requires a lot of communication. So my freshman year in fall I avoided all outings but in spring I got out more and became more involved. I noticed when I got more involved I enjoyed it but it made me very exhausted mentally .I want to get even more involved in college and make friends because I only have friends in rotc and none through the college. One thing that I think about a lot is relationships. I recently left a toxic relationship of 4 years in March. This whole summer I have been wanting to get out again and potentially talk to people again.I have asked around and many people say that it doesn’t matter how long you wait after the relationship but if you feel ready again go for it. At first I felt guilt right after the relationship for wanting to talk to someone else but many people told me that healing is a process it won’t happen right away and it might even happen while talking to people. I feel like there is nothing wrong when talking to people before it gets serious because the mistake with my ex was we just dated straight away we didn’t talk to get to know each other. I want to start talking to people but at the same time I feel like God wants me to wait and be patient. So I am unsure because many people say God will bring the one to you when you are ready but if you seek you might be tested. Also I don’t know where to start with talking to people and finding people it’s like the dating market has changed and every guy that tries to reach out to me wants nudes and talk to me inappropriately.Also I don’t go out much it overstimulates me after a while. I just want to get to know someone and take things slow. Even if things don’t go that way it would be nice to have a friend. I have many friends but I keep all of them at a distance because I trusted my ex with a lot. But now I sit back and realize I never had even a true friend or a healthy relationship. And I know I am still young and their is no rush but that’s why I said to get to know someone before even getting to the relationship part.Any thoughts?