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Arguing with someone you love š
We keep arguing over small things that involve mistakes I make. Such as being forgetful, āunorganizedā, or being not being punctual . My partner knows I have mild symptoms of OCD, anxiety, PTSD ,and depression. However, itās not in the front of their mind at all times. I feel like they donāt truly understand it and how it can affect our relationship. I know I did nothing wrong standing up for myself but I am beginning to think that we may not be compatible. I love my partner and I know all couples argue. But once we have these arguments I feel this anger inside and start to think ā they donāt love me anymore ā , ā they never loved me ā, ā have they always been this heartless?ā ā should I leave this person regardless of the pros in this relationship?ā. When we argue I find more distance created between us and I fall into old patterns. Such as cleaning more, solitude, increased symptoms of OCD, increased anxiety⦠then I think ā Itās their fault Iām like this right nowā ā am I missing something that I did wrong?ā ā will this finally ruin our relationship ā ā Itās going to be like this foreverā ā am I k. An abusive relationship and I donāt know?ā ā Did I ever love them?ā ā and I just repeat and revisit the thoughts frequently. Iām just so angry right now because the words they use hurt me so much because it causes a ripple affect in my mind. ā what were you thinking?ā Translates in my head to ā youāre incompetent, why canāt you do things right, you canāt do ANYTHiNg right ā. And their silence turns to an endless flow of discouraging thoughts about our relationship and me playing our sceneries in my head of what a ā Perfectā relationship should be and how Iām far from it. I know thereās no such thing as perfect relationships, but I do know there should be mutual respect and communication. There should be a reason weāre together than just looks or convenience. Iām tired of arguing over small things. I am only human and can only keep up with so much. ā Is this going to be the Last straw and weāre just done?ā Why do they have to always say things they donāt mean? It just has been happening more often and Iām starting to not care anymore about ā Usā