- Date posted
- 31w ago
I don’t understand
I was so confident that I was straight 3 weeks ago and now all of a sudden it feels like I have become a lesbian! That doesn’t make any sense 😭
I was so confident that I was straight 3 weeks ago and now all of a sudden it feels like I have become a lesbian! That doesn’t make any sense 😭
Look I totally understand, I was fine about 30 minutes ago and I read one word and it triggerd me into intrusive thoughts about being gay. Ik I'm not gay I have a girlfriend, and honestly I don't have feelings for men. But now my mind is obsessing over it and I feel so uncomfortable with these thoughts.
Big buzz word I saw there was “ feel”. Feelings aren’t facts. Also, if you think girls are pretty or attractive it’s cuz they are lol. It’s practically by design so we can attract mates for breeding. I’m straight and I think girls are pretty, even sexy. But my sexual preference is to men. Ocd is just sending you a fire alarm with no fire. Just say “ hmmm, me as a lesbian? Interesting ( or not interesting idea) “ and just carry on with your day. Just because you think or feel something doesn’t make it true.
@TexasOCD41 But I’m not having any anxiety or distress!!
@Beachgirl2024 Oh, the crying emoji threw me off lol then just enjoy it then. You’re basically just experiencing normal thoughts like everyone else and no emotional distress is fantastic! Sounds like what every therapy you are doing is working.
I feel you😔 i feel like im confident for few days that im straight and then i start to spiral again and again and i feel so convinced that im gay. Always the same scenario. Always
Does anyone with so ocd get scared or feel like they r just going to suddenly realise they r gay. Like all of a sudden you’ll be like omg I’m gay and then I get scared like ong it’s happening to me Can any relate to this
The thoughts still exist. For the last couple months I’ve been able to say I don’t care and lean into the comfort of being uncertain. Im having a tough time with some things personally right now and guess what decides to show up… Anyways, I’ve been trying to get used to the fact that maybe I’m bisexual with a romantic preference for men (I’m married and love my husband) but when you start going through your compulsions it’s soooo easy for everything to blur out. To my knowledge I’ve never had a crush on a woman but I’ve most definitely watched same sex porn and have thought women are hot and beautiful, then come the thoughts about comp het and how I’ve never been an overly sexual person so that MUST mean something. Ugh idk, just looking for someone to chat with I guess!
Ok so I’m a 17 year old female, and I’ve always thought I was straight. But I just really want to know how you would know the difference between so-ocd and actually questioning your sexuality. I have nothing against the LGBTQ community (in fact I am very much a token straight friend, lol) but I saw a video about comp-het recently and it sort of felt like what I was experiencing. I don’t want to be gay, I want to be with men, I want to like men, I’ve always liked men, but now I’m questioning whether or not that’s real? Because people can be gay but not want to be right? I’m single and I always have been. I think women are gorgeous, but when I try to imagine actually having any sort of romantic or sexual relationship with a woman it feels wrong, at least most of the time it does? Sometimes I’m less sure, and I’ve never been particularly boy crazy. I’ve liked maybe 2 or 3 people in my life, (not to say I’ve never found other guys attractive, but it doesn’t seem to be as often as most people) I have no particular reason to be afraid of being gay, very supportive family, safe area ect, but I don’t want to be, does that mean this is ocd, I don’t know what’s going on every time I say I’m straight I feel like I’m lying, but that might just be because I think about it so much. The idea of being with a woman doesn’t feel like something I would want, but is that just because I don’t want to want it? People online say things with so much sureness, if you feel like this it means this. Ect.
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