POCD and fear for the future

Hey guys I’ve been thinking about this all the time, so I told my parents about my condition with my intrusive thoughts and dreams, and they still care and love me, but my mom always says that you should get married if you worry so much, and that will help you, and that she can’t wait when I have children, but I just don’t think any of that will help me, plus I worry so much like if I do find the one I love than how can I tell her of the thoughts and dreams I’ve had, and how can she think I want children at all right now with these thoughts.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

My partner has pocd and has never gone into detail but I've never judged. Maybe because I have ocd too. Never feel forced to tell anyone but a trusted therapist about this regardless. Your mom doesn't seem to quite get it. I think she believes that distracting yourself and exposing yourself will fix it. She means well but it's disheartening to not be understood. Ocd is difficult for people to grasp. Just know you're not alone in your disorder, and recovery is possible as the other commenter said!

stxrmads

Date posted: 1y

hello friend! as someone in a relationship with OCD, one of my old themes before my relationship was pocd and thankfully I was able to overcome it. I have never told anyone about those thoughts and worries even after I figured out it was OCD. I just didn't feel safe telling anyone that and risking being misunderstood. I am now recovered from that theme hoping it never comes back, and I haven't told a soul about it because I don't have to! OCD is a disorder and you don't have to go through it alone, but having support from your family and friends doesn't mean you have to share the intricacies of your thoughts and worries.

Dave789

Date posted: 1y

@stxrmads Wow really? thank you so much for this response!! I really hope I can overcome these thoughts and worries

Dave789

Date posted: 1y

@stxrmads Also is it ok if I can ask you at what age these themes of pocd started since mine started when I was 19 years old, and now I’m 20

stxrmads

Date posted: 1y

@Dave789 You've got this!! You are not your thoughts, and your now is not your forever. You will get better 🧡

stxrmads

Date posted: 1y

@Dave789 of course! I was around 17 or 18 I believe. I was at my first job and I worked retail and it made it so difficult just existing because kids are everywhere in a store and so I was constantly being triggered and fighting off my thoughts while working in a very fast paced busy environment. Thankfully it's gotten so much easier to dismiss any feelings of anxiety or any bad thoughts when it's comes to pocd specifically, and it rarely ever happens now. I'm freshly 21 now and I've come so far with POCD, but i still struggle everyday with other themes. Recovery is possible and everyone can do it, but progress is not a straight line. Don't get discouraged if things get better and then worse again. You are strong and can handle this. And you have so many other people on this app to support you and who understand what you're dealing with. give yourself grace and understand that even existing another day makes you so strong <3

Dave789

Date posted: 1y

@stxrmads Oh wow that was another worry of mine since, I am also going to work at retail too!! Thank you so much for this response I really needed this for work, since I worried about the children at the store I would work

Dave789

Date posted: 1y

@stxrmads Hey stxrmads, can I ask if you don’t mind me asking, but do you have a instagram account?

stxrmads

Date posted: 1y

@Dave789 I do, but I do have a boundary for myself that I don't really dm or follow anyone on other social media platforms just because my comfort level doesn't go beyond this app when speaking about ocd and my experiences. I apologize, but I wish you the best!

Dave789

Date posted: 1y

@stxrmads Oh ok, well thank you for letting me know!

Princessandt...

Date posted: 24w

Finding love with POCD. Help!

So I’m really struggling to believe that anyone will want to be in a relationship with me and still love me when they find out about my pocd and intrusive thoughts. I am holding a belief no one can love me with this condition and they will be repulsed by me when they find out. I just don’t know how to shake that feeling and be brave enough to try and share with anyone I’m dating.

POCD

Anonymous

Date posted: 20w

POCD and changing baby diaper - please help

Hi NOCD community, I was hoping to get some advice from fellow sufferers. In December we welcomed the first baby into the family, my beautiful niece. Since then, my POCD has been awful, which I know is probably very normal. Last week, in the middle of a very high stress day in my family, I was changing my niece and as usually happens, I got intrusive thoughts about awful things people do to babies when changing them. The thoughts were so harrowing to have as I was also changing her at the exact same time, and I felt my hands just quickly want to finish patting her dry before putting her nappy on, and for some reason, my heart dropped with that hand movement, because I was afraid that I had acted out the awful thoughts in my head, in a moment of mania because my morals, values and heart do not align with abuse of any kind, especially to children. My niece is my everything, and I know I would never want harm to come to her in any way, shape or form. I love her endlessly. I am having therapy, but have only had a couple of sessions. But, I cannot shake the 'what if'. I am tortured over trying to remember what it was I did that made my heart drop, but I can't, and its getting fuzzier and fuzzier the more I try to remember. Could anyone offer any advice on this please? Thank you.

Anonymous

Date posted: 19w

Moms with HOCD

I have HOCD and my biggest dream is becoming a mother. However, with my intrusive thoughts/images I’ve stopped trying to conceive. Is there any other people that has been going through this same fear?

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