Please I’m begging, this false crush kills me

I need to know if anyone has experienced this because I feel like this is so different and WAY to real. I have a coworker that I got along with quite well and she became my false crush I was always obsessing over if I liked her it was so bad, when I was doing worse, there was times where we would have a conversation and that conversation no matter what it was I would repeat this over and over in my head, or when something funny or interesting happens my brain would immediately go, omg I have to go tell this coworker what happened, and it was so energetic too, I’m so scared this means that I actually like her and it’s not a false crush please anyone has experienced this before?

binnie143

Date posted: 43w

And I just remembered that every time something funny or shocking happens I get that same urge to go tell my real and actual crush, the one I’m romantically and sexually interested in so

Chibee

Date posted: 43w

STOP. I HAVE THIS 😩

Chibee

Date posted: 43w

I have a boyfriend too who I love deeply, but I find my mind obsesses over one of my managers in the most undesirable manner…No matter how badly I try to forget or stamp down the thoughts I find myself fantasizing about every interaction with him.

Chibee

Date posted: 43w

I’ve had this for months now. I’ve considered leaving the job. Worst part is, recently, I’ve noticed my manager seems to express some level of interest in me. 😬 Which increases my panic but also the guilt and fantasizing. I thought interaction with him would break my fantasy bubble kind of like how ERP helps you readjust your anxiety response, but I find it’s simply become even worse the more I interact with him. 🙁

Chibee

Date posted: 43w

@Chibee I’ve researched my symptoms online and it appears it’s common for people who suffer from OCD to develop obsessions on literal PEOPLE. Limerance is a term I’ve seen thrown around a lot. Maybe worth looking into? I wish I had more answers but this is my current dilemma as well..

Chibee

Date posted: 43w

@Chibee And every approach that’s recommended for OCD doesn’t seem to work with my situation. I’m not really sure what’s happening. 😩

Zoë_84

Date posted: 43w

@Chibee You said, every approach, which is recommended for OCD doesn't work for you, but "trying to forget and stamping down the thoughts" is not what is recommended for treating OCD. By trying to ignore, or suppress your intrusions, no matter if they come up as thoughts, urges, emotions, sensations etc., you tell your brain, that they are important, as if they don't matter, there wouldn't be the need to suppress them. A better approach is to say/think "Maybe I am attracted to my coworker, maybe not. Who knows?!" and do what you want to do, like telling her a funny, or interesting story. That way you teach your brain, that your intrusions don't matter to you and your brain will decrease the frequency of bringing those intrusions to your attention.

Chibee

Date posted: 42w

@Zoë_84 I appreciate the thorough response. I will add that maybe in my distress I wasn’t specific enough. I find that even accepting or allowing the thoughts causes me to fantaisiste even deeper than if I just pretend my coworker doesn’t exist.😬 The thoughts only really go away when I haven’t seen him for a couple days/weeks. Which makes me always question whether it’s OCD or not 😔 I have avoided getting to know him, so maybe talking to him as you said can help break the intrusive feelings. But I am in a committed relationship and I am afraid to discover the potential outcome of getting to know this guy.

Zoë_84

Date posted: 42w

@Chibee Hm, I get where you are coming from. OCD is a tough nut to crack. If possible, try the "Maybe" approach and see, if after a week, or two you see some improvement.

ocdinglehopper

Date posted: 24w

intrusive feelings

hey, so i’ve had these insane thoughts about like, this dude. and i assumed it’s intrusive feelings, but it also has happened w the fact o think i like girls? but i don’t? like, i get the gronal response, and everything, and like, it sometimes feels like i actually like them, but it always makes me sick? same way w the false attraction guy, and it even started happening w my bsf of like 9 years? and it’ll tell me the most insane things like “maybe u are attracted” “maybe if u got w them the thoughts will stop” someone please help.

Googlyeyes34

Date posted: 22w

False attraction

False attraction has been killing me ive had it for months with the same person. I have a boyfriend so having false attraction makes me feel so guilty. And lately theyve felt so real and ive been so anxious. What if I do like him bla bla. Ive only ever saw him as a brother and we have a good connection and he is one of my good friends but even sometimes when im having a conversation I feel like im cheating. Sometimes I get excited like oh yay he is gonna be here and then I get scared that it’s romantical because I get excited when he is around because he is a funny. Im so scared thats its real attraction because I love my boyfriend I would never do such a thing. And lately my minds done stuff like oh grab his attention stuff like that and it feels like I have done those actions but I dont want to. Sometimes when he is like idk sitting near Im like oh is he looking and my minds like oh do something to empress him bla bla. Recently he was going thought stuff and my boyfriend was there and I was I can give him a hug because I think he needs it but after I thought of it as bad because he is a guy and I had this false attraction what if I did it because I like him bla bla. I am freaking out idk why my mind makes me do compulsions that I have acted on like oh go talk to him and I do its weird urges that I do not want to do. I am scared that it will come true

What is happ...

Date posted: 17w

YOUR EXPERIENCE IN FALSE ATTRACTION

Can anyone give their experience on FALSE ATTRACTION? At this moment, mine has become worse. Soon as I see a male my anxiety shoots up, I can feel this in my chest and my OCD is telling me I’m attracted. But I continue to look back or stare and the disgust comes over me and my body shakes and I feel my face screw up. I can’t listen to music I use too or watch movies which was a favourite thing of mine to do. I just feel disgusted and not who I am when it happens. It’s like a different me. P.S. I had a very good week few days ago where I knew this wasn’t me and these feelings/ thoughts isn’t me.

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