- Date posted
- 45w
THERAPY QUESTION!! Comments would be great!!
I’ve had 4 sessions with a therapist and I feel worse. At the moment, she is trying to get to know me and my problem, but that’s not helping me at all. I want to know what to do when I’m triggered, like things I can say to myself etc but she says it’s a process and there is a method to it. We can’t rush it, but right now, I feel worse when I’m with my boyfriend (I have ROCD) and am seeking more reassurance than ever before. I feel more stressed. I don’t know whether to trust the process of therapy and take that leap to try something different or try another therapist? I do really like her and the way she works. I’m so so unsure. What if I waste all this money and feel worse at the end of it? That will really defeat me and I will feel so hopeless. All I want from therapy are WAYS to actually help myself, I don’t want to just talk about my feelings and thoughts and why I feel them!! But is that the process of all cbt therapy? Do they have to get to know you in the first few sessions before giving help on how to help the problem? Or do some give you strategies when you ask? We are doing formulation diagrams, worry diaries etc. What if I see another therapist and they actually give me strategies straight away that I can use to help me? Because right now when I’m triggered, I’m completely helpless because I have no strategies to use to help me. Therapy just confuses me and if I take advice from the internet for strategies then what is the point in paying for therapy if I’m not getting strategies from it but someplace free? How do I know if this is the right therapy for me? These last couple of weeks I’ve never had this many what if thoughts, I just want to feel certain about something 😪 (my ocd hates phrases like red flags, or that doesn’t sound good etc, just hopeful advice would be amazing 🙏🏻)