OCD and Crushes

There’s this guy that I think is really cute and I don’t know him very well and it’s really destroying me. All I do all day is check social media to see if he’s posted, checking his ‘notes’ for a new song and analyzing the lyrics to see if he’s talking to me. I’ve even started posting songs in response. I genuinely don’t want to care this much but my mind is STUCK on him and it’s driving me crazy. I do this with people I know of, celebrities, and things I’m interested in in general and it is exhausting. Please at least tell me there’s a reasoning behind this and it’s not just me being creepy. It makes me feel so bad because I’ll get a groinal response from whatever trigger, leave because I’m distraught and I didn’t want that at all, and then come back to obsess over it all again. I feel like I’m losing my mind.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

Hi, I have done some similar stuff lately where I have checked the FB of my crush, his website, etc. He's someone I can't have for professional reasons but I enjoy looking at his new pictures! I'm supposed to be working on my OCD surrounding that as told by my therapist. I hope I can succeed with the ERP...but man is he adorable <3. I wish I could have him sooo freakin' badly. Him in his picture looking like he's laughing warms my heart ❤. He is...hot 🔥🔥🔥. It's normal to feel bodily responses to crushes, btw. Like...blushing, an increased heart rate, and probably...groinal responses. You are just a normal person! Honestly, I've had...well...this is gross but increased mucus down there at times when I have thought about my man (at least I wish he was my man! I would love to come home to him!) Dude it's fun honestly looking up my crush but I never stalk or harass. That's when it's not okay. Hope this helps!

Totallynotso...

Date posted: 1y

@Anonymous I think….you’re missing my point completely here. I don’t want to be in this state. While I do think he’s cute, constantly checking his social media and making sure it’s relevant to me isn’t healthy for me at all and I have a hard time changing my thought. And I don’t want the response at all. In fact, I’m mortified by it. This isn’t normal for me.

Anonymous

Date posted: 1y

@Totallynotsomeoneyouknow Hi, maybe reduce your checking. The bodily responses, however, I’m not sure you can always control. I have reduced checking of my crush online. That’s something my therapist said to do. I know you may not want bodily responses but honestly they might happen without you even trying to get them to happen. Yes too much checking isn’t healthy. I don’t see anything you’re doing as creepy though. It’s not like you’re stalking him or something. Wishing you well

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