Anon56
- Date posted
- 41w
Coming out videos did not affect me
I thought I had so-ocd, but coming out videos for erp did not affect me at all what is happening?
NicaNica
- Date posted
- 41w
Tell your therapist so they can do a higher exposure for you.
Zoë_84Zoë_84
- Date posted
- 41w
Well, I did an ERP session once, where my therapist made me create a scenario, that at least would get my anxiety to 8 out of 10. When we, a while later, started the ERP therapy session as we had planned it out, my anxiety wouldn reach 2-3 out of 10. I guess my OCD "knew" it was an ERP session and not "real" life. In later therapies ERP exercises worked just fine though.
Anon56Anon56
- Date posted
- 41w
Makes sense- I have known it to be an exposure for a month and I wasn't ready or even inclined to try it before, because you know why should I watch it when I don't have anything to come out with? Yesterday I tried and it didn't work. So your explanation makes sense now. Thank you!
Zoë_84Zoë_84
- Date posted
- 41w
@Anonymous You are very welcome. Also, if watching coming out videos have never been trigger for you, them working for ERP seems unlikely to me.
Zoë_84Zoë_84
- Date posted
- 41w
Did your ERP therapist tell you to watch those videos as ERP exercises?
Anon56Anon56
- Date posted
- 41w
I wish I had a therapist, I don't for now. And I can't ask my parents for it therapy is still a taboo, so community and support groups are my only source of knowledge.
Zoë_84Zoë_84
- Date posted
- 41w
@Anonymous I'm sorry, you can't get support from your parents. I'm not a psychologist, but I suffer from OCD for 34 years and in total I have over 13 years of therapy under my belt. So if you want me to give you some advice, I'm happy to help.
Zoë_84Zoë_84
- Date posted
- 41w
@Zoë_84 It's pretty late here and I have to go to bed now. In case you are interested, here are some articles about HOCD: https://manhattancbt.com/hocd/ https://manhattancbt.com/hocd-stories-sexual-obsessions/ https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/what-is-sexual-orientation-ocd-so-ocd-your-guide-to-this-ocd-subtype https://www.treatmyocd.com/blog/soocd-thoughts-and-symptoms https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=VRAV79AXSZc
Anon56Anon56
- Date posted
- 41w
@Zoë_84 - I would love that. Thank you. Please let me know the exposures which could work at my level. Thank you.
Zoë_84Zoë_84
- Date posted
- 41w
@Anonymous Well, I can tell what would work for you. I suggest you make a list of obsessions (= intrusive thoughts, images, emotions, sensations, or urges) and rank them according to how much anxiety the cause of a scale from 1 (very low) to 10 (extremely high) anxiety. After having made made that ranking, you can denote what triggers which obsession and with which compulsion (= mental and/or physical ritual, reassurance seeking, researching on the internet, confessing, etc.) you normally would response to each obsession. I'd suggest you do that in an excel sheet. Please note, that this chart doesn't have to be perfect and doesn't need to contain every scenario, you can add to the chart as you go. When you are done with it, we can figure out a way for you to share the chart with me - of course, only if you feel comfortable sharing.
Anon56Anon56
- Date posted
- 41w
@Zoë_84 - I will try this and get back to you!
Anon56Anon56
- Date posted
- 41w
@Zoë_84 - Hey! I made a list, can I share it via emails? I am more comfortable with emails.
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