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Narcissistic mom
Hi How to deal with a fucked up narcissistic mom that caused me to have ocd ?????? I have so much anger towards her and idk how to let it out.
Hi How to deal with a fucked up narcissistic mom that caused me to have ocd ?????? I have so much anger towards her and idk how to let it out.
First, what happened? Why you mad at her? Maybe she is not narcissistic, maybe you just see it this way. I am not saying you are wrong or right, but try to cool down before jumping to conclusions.
@hanysm@gmail.com I've been mistreated my whole life bro, my mom HATES ME she even admitted it several times, one time she said that my little sisters shoes are more valuable than me infront of my siblings ššš she thrives off provoking me what are u talking about bro, today i told her that i got an A and all she said was "okay!" istg ive never done something horrible even tho sometimes she gaslights me into thinking that i'm a bad person and I deserved all of that, but ik myself.
@noneed1 First congratulations on the A. That's an achievement and you should be proud of yourself. š Second, reflect on your relationship with your mother by considering specific behaviors and patterns that make you feel mistreated. Are there recurring themes? It can also be helpful to talk to a trusted adult or counselor about your experiences to gain an outside perspective. When it comes to communication, using "I" statements can be effective. This allows you to express your feelings without blaming, such as saying, "I feel hurt when..." This approach can reduce defensiveness. Choosing the right time to discuss sensitive topics is essential; try to have these conversations when both of you are calm and not in the heat of an argument. Listening actively is also crucialāshow that you are willing to understand her perspective, which can encourage more open communication. In terms of conflict resolution, focus on solutions rather than dwelling on past issues. Work together to find practical ways to move forward. Itās also important to accept that some disagreements may not be resolved, and thatās okay. Respecting each other's differences can help maintain peace. Lastly, prioritize self-care by engaging in activities that help you relax and recharge, such as hobbies or spending time with friends. Building a support network is vital; connect with friends, family members, or counselors who can offer guidance and emotional support. By approaching the situation thoughtfully and seeking constructive ways to communicate, you can improve your relationship with your mother while also taking care of your own emotional needs.
@hanysm@gmail.com Beautifully said, Thank u SO MUCH, i really appreciate the time and effort you put into this, i can see that helping me in the future, thank u againā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø
Talk to a therapist or someone you trust.
Why do you have to deal with her? You have ocd. Thatās not going to change. Maybe she caused it maybe not. But itās not going anywhere. You can recover though. As far as your mom, if sheās truly a narcissist then your anger does not matter to her. Your feelings do not matter to her. So again why do you need to deal with her? Set boundaries, limit the access she has to you and work on your self. As far as the anger , itās only hurting you . Again she wonāt care. You accept it , process it and move on. It sucks I get it. My wife has a narcissistic father. Hits all the requirements in the DSM or what ever for the diagnosis, just missing a professional diagnosis š. Once my wife realized he was not going to change and her hurt and anger only affected her⦠she set boundaries and only allows the access she chooses to allow to her father. Seems to be working for her. Good luck !
@Iām Batman She is, I'm trying, thank youšš»
@noneed1 Look up Tim fletcher on YouTube. He has a lot of good videos on recovering from narcissistic abuse and complex trauma. At least itās a place to start. Finding a therapist you click with helps as well. Good luck !
I also think my mother caused my sister and me to suffer from mental health issues. We did ask her to go to family therapy with us, once in our early 20, then again in our late 30s, she refused. Apparently, she had been an awesome mother and we are just ungrateful brats. Needless to say, both my sister and me have cut contact with her and the first Christmas I didn't force myself to visit her, had been the best Christmas in my life, even though I spent it alone.
Hi everyone, Iām Cayla. Iām a mom thatās lived with OCD since childhood, but my breaking point came more recently after having my son. I was consumed by terrifying thoughtsāWhat if I hurt him? What if I did something awful without realizing it? I was so afraid of my own mind that I couldnāt be alone with him. The shame and exhaustion were unbearable, and I convinced myself I was broken. In 2024, I finally sought help. ERP therapy at NOCD was one of the hardest things Iāve ever done, but it saved my life. Even now, I have tough days, but I know I donāt have to be ruled by OCD. When my 12 year old daughter began showing signs of OCD, I felt overwhelmed with guilt. I never wanted her to go through what I had, but I knew what to do. I told her that I have OCD too and made sure she knew it wasnāt her faultāand that she wasnāt alone. One of the hardest parts of this journey was trusting someone else with my daughterās OCD. I knew how vulnerable it feels to share intrusive thoughts, and I wanted her to feel safe. Her NOCD therapist was able to establish trust and genuine empathy from the start, and that relationship gave her the confidence to face ERP head-on. Seeing her build that trust made me certain she was in the right hands. ERP has helped both of us reclaim our lives, and it is beautiful to see my daughter managing her condition and making visible progress. Parenting with OCD while raising a child with OCD isnāt talked about enough, but I know so many parents are struggling with these same challenges. If you have questions about managing OCD while parenting, helping your child through ERP, or breaking cycles of guilt, drop them belowāIād love to share what Iāve learned. Iāll be answering all of the questions I receive in real-time today 4-5pm ET.
Please comment. Just say if follows along the OCD pattern or not. I don't need reassurance per se! My daughter was laying across me and every time I breathed a certain way I was getting a groinal sensation. I kept breathing like that anyways (ugh idk why), and then my mind told me I had hurt/a**aulted her that I might as well do something else to hurt because what's more. So idk why or what overcame me other than the thought of doing it because my mind told me I had hurt her already ("my mind literally made me question what to do and I guess the only thing I could come up with was using my elbow) and causing another feeling but it came across my mind to elbow her, and I elbowed her crotch or side/thigh area. Which caused another very unwanted groinal sensation. Then I began FREAKING smooth out. And I've been stressing since. I feel like as a mom I don't deserve to be hers anymore. Idk what overcame me but my therapist says it's all OCD. I was doing SO well! Is this really OCD? This has all caused me a great amount of anxiety. I feel like a terrible person and mom. I just need help knowing if this is OCD. Not wanting reassurance. Just wanting to know if this lines up with the POCD I've been diagnosed with by my current therapist.
So I recently got diagnosed with ocd, and due to me growing up in a household who doesnāt believe in it I have an even harder time grasping if itās a real diagnosis or not. I know it is but my parents still get mad at me when I tell them not to reassure me and things like that, since they donāt want to understand me anytime. They always put the blame on me and they do everything and how Iām ungrateful. I am very greatful but I told my mom to try to understand this condition but she refuses to, my dad just completely ignores that it exists. Itās just hard to cope around it and not be stuck in a loop, Iām leaving in a few months after graduating so hopefully that will help. Itās hard when my parents donāt want to try to understand what I go through.
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