OCD trap

So I know that when your ocd starts to subside and you start to heal the thoughts don’t effect you nearly as much as they did or maybe even at all. Well that’s happening to me which I’m grateful for. But how do you not fall for the ocd trap of “these thoughts don’t bother you so that must mean you’ve accepted them and they are true” like how do you deal with it and not have that thought constantly live in your head. Side note: my ROCD used to bother me 24/7 but now they mainly only kick it when I see my boyfriend and I don’t know if that’s a normal thing. ^ I have a tendency to form questions in a way that are reassurance seeking which I didn’t know so if any of this seems that way I promise that’s not my intent I’m just trying to learn more about it and what I can do to help. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

1twilightloverr

Date posted: 35w

for me i feel like im in that stage and its rlly scary. i get feelings like maybe im bored of my boyfriend or that i lost feelings and they haven’t rlly effected me crazy. i keep comparing how i feel in the moment with him when i get these thoughts because in the moment im always so happy to be around him. so for now everytime i get these thoughts i tell myself that its not real and it’ll pass 😭 i sit with them

Secretidentity

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 35w

@1twilightloverr Sometimes they affect me and sometimes they don’t. I’m not entirely sure. But yesterday he did something that was slightly annoying and I spiraled from that of like he did this that annoyed me so therefore I must not love him. Even though I know it’s normal to be annoyed by something sometimes.

1twilightloverr

Date posted: 35w

@Secretidentity no i completely understand the other day my bf was pissing me OFF LMAO and i felt guilty about that but these little thoughts in my head that i get i try not to let them get to me because ive been thru a huge spiral for a month and im never going thru that again. so i know whats real if that makes sense. you also cant get rid of thoughts because you get a million of them that pop up and most of them are just thoughts! you latch onto the thought that effects the most important thing to you which is your boyfriend. i know reassurance is taboo on this app but i feel like the way some people try to help is not very helpful on here 😭 i feel a sense of comfort and relief knowing that these thoughts are not real and that it’s just a spiral :)

Secretidentity

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 35w

@1twilightloverr No me too. Like I don’t want the reassurance of like “yes you love your boyfriend” like yes that would be nice. But sometimes I just want reassurance that certain things are normal. Like getting annoyed with your partner from time to time. Yeah I went down a HUGE spiral and I never wanna do that ever again. It was so bad. I wish this app had DM sometimes because I’ll have convos in the comments w people and I’m like I just want to be able to DM them so my convos arnt all out sometimes.

1twilightloverr

Date posted: 35w

@Secretidentity ughh me too, but i think when the convos too long ppl get bored of reading them LMFAO. but i usually ask my parents about if some things are normal and most of the time they are. it depends on what time of person you are too because i get annoyed very easily with everyone and i get annoyed w my bf a lot

Secretidentity

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 35w

@1twilightloverr Idk j get kinda nosey with the convos people have sometimes if they are interesting enough. I don’t like asking my parents because they like to dig and stuff and like bro I’m just asking something stop digging. I don’t really get annoyed with my bf a lot but I get annoyed a lot in general.

1twilightloverr

Date posted: 35w

@Secretidentity yeah it’s def normal to be annoyed, i would assume you spend a lot of time with your bf so it’s completely normal

Secretidentity

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 35w

@1twilightloverr Yeah I try to spend as much time as possible but sometimes my work schedule limits it.

Pushingpissed

Date posted: 25w

Feeling “normal” again

Anyone else feel that when they aren’t experiencing a theme that their ocd is almost non existent. It almost makes me feel like I’ve been faking it, and also makes me feel ridiculous for obsessing over things. I feel sorry for myself :/ I know that my themes are valid and felt very real in the moment, but after I “get over” them I just can’t believe that I was obsessing over something that either wasn’t true or didn’t apply to me. I would also like to know how to prevent themes from reoccurring. Health, religion and existential OCD themes tend to take turns throughout my life, I just didn’t know that was it ocd. Trying to break the cycle.

anonymous00001

Date posted: 20w

Looking for “proof” that it’s not OCD

Hey all, I’ve been having some ebbs and flows in recovery, but for the most part I’ve really had a lot of improvements in quality of life since starting treatment in 2023. Something that really trips me up is ruminating on my past and looking for “evidence” or “proof” that the things that I’m obsessed with are real and not OCD. I spend quite a lot of time doing this. I wasn’t fully aware I was doing it until recently. Example: that I’m secretly gay and lying to everyone (I’m bi), that I’m a horrible person deep down, that I’ve never actually loved any person including my family, that I have the “wrong” political or religious beliefs. I look for proof in every corner of my past. It makes some sense that I think this way because with my previous therapist, who I saw for 8 years and did not diagnose me with OCD, we would look for evidence and proof that my obsessions are irrational and I learned to deal with them that way. At the time it was a lot of health concern and contamination themes, but I literally learned to ruminate and search for relief. But I just kept getting sicker and sicker until I got diagnosed with OCD. It’s a frustrating compulsion that keeps showing up for me. What if these scary things are true? What if it’s not OCD at all and I’m in denial? Have I lied my way into thinking I have OCD? It’s so hard. Anyway, I’m curious if anyone else has come across this in recovery? Let me know your thoughts and I hope you’re well. ❤️

Holl1

Date posted: 16w

OCD

So I’ve noticed that my OCD has calmed down, I’m getting less intrusive thoughts but I feel more uncertain than ever. Is this normal for recovery?

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