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I have an 11 month old. I had POCD very badly around 4 years ago. *trigger warning* I was very suicidal when I had it the first time. I didn’t even understand it had anything to do with OCD and I didn’t think I could live like that. I pushed through those extremely dark times because of a family member with special needs who I don’t think could comprehend death. Here I am, a happy mother of a beautiful baby, and POCD is sometimes, at worst a fleeting thought but most of the time doesn’t even cross my mind anymore. Once I identified it as a fear instead of a “secret desire” I wasn’t scared of it anymore because I knew I was only thinking about it because it was something I was scared of vs something I wanted to think of.
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I know it’s not that easy, but I went through an extremely hard year I didn’t think I would survive through and here I am 4 years later very minimally affected and a mother. I was able to move on, I think 100% it’s possible. I’m sorry you’re going through this, I hope you find some relief from those intrusive ocd thoughts. That’s never any fun
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@treehouse Thank you so much! I always wanted kids and have a family and ever since I had my first intrusive thought I was scared that it would never happen. Hearing your story gives me hope! Again thank you?
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@treehouse I also was suicidal when I first had my intrusive thoughts. In my mind I rather die than hurt a child like that.
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I have the same thing! When I am cleaning and changing my son that’s when my intrusive thoughts come in. I become fearful and start questioning why and how and how times I clean his private area. It’s a compulsion not that we are pedophile and it was done with no sexual intent. It’s POCD! It’s tricky because obviously you have to clean the child which require touching, however OCD will have over doing it, avoiding it, cleaning extra wondering why you did it and was for sexual reasons. It’s not! It’s anxiety and OCD. We are good people and we can let anxiety from keeping us from taking care of one another particular our kids or nieces ?
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Thank you so much! You’re right when I first had intrusive thoughts I didn’t want to go near my nieces thinking I was protecting them but I was only feeding the ocd. I am glad I am not alone
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This gives me so much relief I've wanted to be a mom my whole life but when pocd hit I was so scared that I wasn't meant to be ? thank you guys so much for sharing your stories ❤️
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Thank you for your comment. The more people who talk about it gives me more hope that I am not alone and that I am not a bad person. We will both be great moms?
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I talked to my wife about it and the anxiety all went away.
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I am happy to hear that! I am happy to hear things are better for you! Thank you again for sharing your story
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I’m really struggling with something related to me ocd, and I would appreciate kind and supportive advice. If you can’t relate or don’t think anything you have to say would be helpful, I kindly ask pls refrain from commenting this is a really sensitive topic for me. Recently, I’ve noticed a pattern that feels something extremely new and distressing. The first time it happened I remember telling myself before self pleasuring that I am in control no matter what thought comes into my mind because I wanted to prove to myself that these thoughts are just from OCD and I know who I am and an intrusive that came out of no where, and i suddenly felt an intense fear that I was acting on it. In the moment I genuinely felt like I did. And afterword, I panicked and started questioning myself. This SAME FEELING has happened three times in a row each time, the intrusive thought was unwanted and random, and completely against my morals most recently it involved pocd and it feels even worse because it generally felt like I acted on it the thought in the moment while I was self pleasuring the panic doesn’t hit until afterwards when I stop :/ I start thinking that maybe I generally made a mistake and I’m now just realizing that it’s wrong because it generally feels like that :( but when I actually think about it again goes against my morals and values doesn’t make sense it feels incredibly real, and I can’t seem to shake this feeling off that I may have acted on it I’m terrified because I never wanted these thoughts in the first place. And I definitely didn’t choose them. If I had known, I would’ve had these intrusive thoughts I wouldn’t have self pleasured in the first place but it’s extremely hard to convince myself that this may be OCD because I feel like I have no other reason to believe that I didn’t act on it :/
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I’ve been feeling the urge to avoid intimacy or purposefully engage (for reassurance that I won’t give into a compulsion) because of intrusive thoughts and fear that I’ll “check/test” my reactions. My OCD is making me so scared that I’ll purposefully think of a child and try to see if I like it. It’s so complicated but I guess I’m mentally checking if I would mentally check during intimacy. I’ve even envisioned myself checking and it’s making me so nauseous. I know it’s a compulsion like any other but the sound of “touching yourself to the thought of a child” sounds atrocious and vile. I’m terrified I’ll automatically start checking next time I am being intimate. I truly feel so worried. If anyone has gone through something similar, I’d appreciate hearing your experience. Or if anyone has any advice?
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I was sitting down and my child wanted me tl hug her. She extended her arms. I leaned in and hugged her but my pocd freaks out says “dont brush up lr do anything inappropriate. Dont thrust my hips”. I leaned in and hugged her. I had these intrusive thoughts and worries. I hugged her still and i think i did compulsions to avoid these pocd and intrusive thoughts. I moved on and now im habing doubts and false memories on the details. I know as i hugged her i worried about brushing up or hips thrusting and i was anxious and uncomfortable. I known its ocd. I still hugged my child. Despite ocd discomfort. I thought i felt my body react like a hip thrust twitch or maybe its just in my head. I dont want to hip thrust. Thats why my mind was freaking out worrying about it when she asked for anhug. My therapist said my ocd and anxiety and these intrusive thiughts can cause my body to involuntarily react and do those things my ocd is obssessing over like hip thrusting or twitches or groinals down there.
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