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- 30w
Has anyone else experienced a sudden shift in their relationship like this?
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years, living together for a year and a half. Everything was going well, but about a month ago straight everyday, I started having these intense doubts and urges to break up. It came out of nowhere – nothing specific happened. Now I'm constantly second-guessing everything, feeling uncomfortable, and doubting my love for him. It's like I don't even know him anymore, or how we even got together in the first place. I feel like I've forgotten our entire relationship history. One day I just woke up and thought, "Wait, do I even love him?" Now I'm constantly questioning why I'm here, whether I want to do things with him or if I'd rather be alone. I even wonder if I'm just staying because it's comfortable and I don't want to deal with the hassle of leaving. It's gotten so bad that I sometimes feel like I don't know how to act around him. I even question if I ever truly loved him, even from the very beginning. And my sex drive decreased the day we moved in together and hasn't really come back. I tell him I love him, and I do care about him, but sometimes it feels like I'm lying, or like "I love you" is just a default phrase I use when I don't know what else to say. We mostly talk about games or stuff we find online now. It's like I don't know if I even want to do things with him anymore. I'm so confused and lost. Has anyone else gone through something similar? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.