Username: magsbelle

Date posted: 7d ago

Intrusive thoughts on valentine’s day

I’ve been single for a very long time. I’ve always attached really heavily to people and highly prioritized being in a relationship. I know I can be happy on my own but sometimes all i can think about is how I wish someone loved me like that, it consumes my entire brain. For that reason Valentine’s day feels pretty sad to me. I’m gonna have to stay off social media so i don’t see people posting about how much they love their significant others because i know it’ll make me spiral. Also since it’s valentine’s day i keep having intrusive thoughts of my loved ones having sex and it feels really gross.

Username: BeevsBeevs

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 7d ago

I'm definitely scrolling past the couples stuff but I went out and treated myself to a haircut, went to Barnes N Noble, and now idk lol. But even if I'm single, treating yourself and partaking in self care is always nice. As far as the intrusive thoughts, I get those a lot. Anything really. When I get disturbing thoughts like that, I try to actually just laugh at it. Like "oh wow..that's odd. Good one OCD", then try my best to move forward with my day.

Username: magsbellemagsbelle

Date posted: 7d ago

@Beevs you’ve inspired me to go get my haircut too! i actually haven’t left my house in 2 weeks because i’m too anxious to drive but i’ve been wanting my haircut for a while and my hairdresser just came back in town haha

Username: BeevsBeevs

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 7d ago

@magsbelle Yes! You go!! Enjoy yourself ☺️. I love getting my haircut. It's my favorite form of self care lol. A couple years ago, I was terrified to go due to other forms of OCD but I wouldn't let it ruin my favorite thing. You can do this!

Username: magsbellemagsbelle

Date posted: 7d ago

@Beevs i went and i love it! i also bought a box of cookies from a girl scout which made me feel good bc i was a girl scout when i was little :) thanks for inspiring me to get out!

Username: BeevsBeevs

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 7d ago

@magsbelle Love it!! I'm happy for you! No need to thank me. Getting out and even doing something small can be so beneficial to our mental health. Great job!

Username: I'm > ocd 😳I'm > ocd 😳

Date posted: 7d ago

❤

Username: JasonBerning JasonBerning

Date posted: 7d ago

I completely understand you. I'm currently going through a break up. I know today is tough. But we can get through it.

Username: I'm > ocd 😳I'm > ocd 😳

Date posted: 7d ago

I get that. I've had periods of my life where I've been without a significant other for a long time. A suggestion that might help is to show yourself some self compassion. OCD wants us to solve problems immediately, ir what we perceive as problems, and maybe that's not how our story is supposed to unfold. A self compassionate approach might be to say, yes I know that's something I value, and I don't need to pressure myself while on the road to that special connection. You can spend your time doing things you enjoy, and make each day a happy day between now and when you find that relationship starting to bud. There a zoom meeting support group for self compassion that meets tonight at 6pm (east time) that I like to attend. Self compassion is really helpful for me with my ocd because it helps me show understanding to myself. To recognize the things we go through are hard, and to not get frustrated with myself.

Username: magsbellemagsbelle

Date posted: 7d ago

@I'm > ocd 😳 thank you i appreciate it!! <3

Username: I'm > ocd 😳I'm > ocd 😳

Date posted: 7d ago

I'd also like to share this self compassion video that was used as an ice breaker to start one of the self compassion group sessions a couple weeks ago. https://youtu.be/11U0h0DPu7k?si=9NsfXe9th3Yg9mrC

Username: sanity_222sanity_222

Date posted: 7d ago

Girl this is so freaking validating. Thank u for posting this. Never related more. And Its that time of the month for me. so I’m highly emotional on top of it all😭😭 worst day of the year. We CAN tolerate the discomfort.

Username: JimJimAlabim

Date posted: 22w ago

Intrusive thoughts over new relationship

Around a month ago I got out of an almost 2 year relationship. In that time I met someone that I ended up developing a crush on and today we decided to start dating. Since earlier today, I’ve had a lot of intrusive thoughts about a variety of things, the two biggest being if I actually like this person and the if it’s too soon for me to be back in a relationship. I know I like this person and we have amazing chemistry I just want some advice on the situation.

Relationship OCD

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 11w ago

Obsessing over coworker for months OCD

You know when you have weird thoughts about a coworker and because you have OCD these thoughts really stick and you panic and feel sick? Yeah that’s me and I’ve struggled with having intrusive thoughts about my coworker and now he just got in a relationship with my coworker and my intrusive thoughts are WORSE I thought they would be better? And initially they were because I was relieved that he couldn’t be weird with me now because he has a girlfriend. But this is the thought that i cannot get over- my OCD is like you’re jealous that he doesn’t like you and he’s not with you instead and i envy this girl he is with. Why the fuck am I having these thoughts while I’m in a healthy relationship and love my boyfriend to DEATH- like I know he is my forever. I couldn’t look at him today because I’ve been obsessing over this thought I’ve had in work and now I have to find a new job I hope no one will judge me for these thoughts or maybe someone has had this weird thought before? :(

Relationship OCD

Username: Carmalita

Date posted: 8w ago

Struggling During the Holiday

I am having a really hard time being home for the holidays. My intrusive thoughts are constant and loud. It sucks too, because my thoughts get triggered when I'm around one of my family members. I just want to distance myself, so I can stop the thoughts and feel like I'm not going to hurt anyone. I'm so distressed and depressed. What do you do to help calm your mind and remind yourself that you are a good person, despite what the thoughts say? I've already meditated, taken my Lexapro, and tried to remind myself that these thoughts want to attack the things I care about the most. Thanks. ❤️

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